Letters from the Rosh Yeshiva Shlit"a

#45 - EMUNAH STRENGTHENS ONE MENTALLY.
Emunah, Anxiety

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ב' פ' בא, ראש חודש שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Mrs….


I beg you; believe that Hashem controls everything that happens. Through trusting Hashem, you will feel safer, happier, and your life will be easier in all aspects.


Emunah strengthens one mentally, and vice versa, one who lacks faith in Hashem; one who believes the world revolves around nature, and that things occur without a heavenly accounting; through spontaneity and luck –  such a person will always be subjected to frightening thoughts, and baseless fears. Likewise, when one doesn’t believe in Hashem, he will constantly blame himself for everything that transpires; he will live with an endless guilt, and bring upon himself mental illnesses, לא עלינו ולא עליכם. The only antidote for one who is weak mentally, is ‘Emunah.’


The Rebbe constantly spoke about Emunah, he cites (Likutei Maharan chelek 2, siman 5) “The most important thing for a person is Emunah, and without Emunah, a person’s life is extremely challenging. There are many ailments that come from a lack of Emunah; which are mental and emotional Illnesses that people unfortunately suffer from.” The Rebbe continues ”When a person suffers from a mental illness, rachmana litzlon; medication or alternative methods wont heal him, and even tefilla, or zchus avos cannot help him; his only way to escape from his inner darkness is through Emunah”.


Therefore, strengthen your faith in Hashem; look at the miracles Hashem granted you; a dear husband, and a beautiful child. Thank and praise Hashem, and daven to be able to feel pleasure in your life. I’m writing a tefilla for you to say every day; I guarantee, if you say this tefilla at least once a day, you will recover very soon. Say this tefilla as many times as you need to; once, twice, every time you feel worrying thoughts blurring your mind; when you feel the negativity closing in, take this tefilla and say it aloud, and you will feel things change for the better.


“Hashem, thank you for all the wonders and blessings you gave me; thank you for my dear husband, and beautiful child.


Dear father, help me be happy, and be able to feel pleasure in my life. I’m in a pit of despair; I only see darkness, and have such terrifying thoughts which dominate my life.


I beg you sweet father, help me believe everything that happens to me, is only from you. I want to live with Emunah, and feel your presence in everything I do. Hashem, see my pain, how my negative thoughts are destroying my life. I only see my flaws, and live with such a guilt over everything that occurs. This causes me to hate my own self, and I feel that I cannot endure the pain any longer.


Holy father, have pity on me! Help me think positively, and stop blaming myself for everything; help me remember everything comes only from you.


Hashem, see my tears, and feel my pain; אתה חונן לאדם דעת – you give wisdom to all; ומלמד לאנוש בינה – and you grant understanding; thus, I beg you dear father, חננו מאתך חכמה בינה ודעת, grant me the שכל to stop torturing myself with unwanted thoughts.


Hashem, I feel as if my life has no value like this; I have such conflicted thoughts; all I want is to escape. I know though, I have no where to run, only to you Hashem.


Therefore, I beg you Hashem, help me; in the merit of the tzadikim who sanctified your holy name; in the merit of our holy Avos, Avraham, Yitzchok, and Yaakov; in the merit of our holy Imahos, Sarah, Rivkah, Rachel, and Leah; in the merit of the holy Rebbe, R’ Nachman M’Breslev; in the merit of R’Nosson M’Breslev, and in the merit of Maharosh z”l, amen.


By saying this tefilla every day, you will merit a refuah shleima very soon.

#44 - IT’S NOT WORTH ENVYING ANOTHER.
Chizuk For Girls, Jealousy

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ב' פ' בא, ראש חודש שבט, שנת תשע"ט


…… student of Bais Faiga Breslev


I received your letter.


Cease envying your friends and neighbors; stop looking at other people; it is a senseless act. Everyone has their own unique hardships they are going through, and there is no person in the world that has only blessings. Therefore, it is foolish to be jealous of another. The only person one should envy is, a righteous Jew who despite going through tribulations and hardships, persists and continues with his avodas Hashem.


It would be worthwhile for you to review the story of the Chochom and the Tam (Sippurei Maasos, story 9) which demonstrates how the Tam merited a blessed life.


The Tam was a poor shoemaker, who worked long hours to earn a living. The shoes he would create were misshapen and bizarre, but he would pride himself with them, proclaiming “how beautiful and magnificent these shoes are! How sweet and blessed my shoes are!” His wife who wasn’t at all impressed with his work, couldn’t understand, and would question him; “if the shoes you make are truly so wonderful, why do all the other shoemakers charge three times the price than you do?” the Tam would reply “that is no concern of mine; others should do their thing; and I will continue to do mine. What they do is their decision, and what I do is my decision. What is the point in discussing others?” He would then make a calculation of his income and expenses; and calculate a profit. This was enough for him, and he was happy.


Therefore, when envious thoughts creep into your mind; you feel your siblings receive more than you do etc. replay the words of the Tam in your mind. ‘This is not my concern! What happens to others has no connection to me.’ By keeping this in mind, you too will merit the blessings the Tam ultimately merited.


I would not advise you to buy a cellphone. You have time for that after you get married; instead of texting with friends use your time to daven to Hashem, and say Tehillim.


May Hashem help you succeed in everything you do.

#43 - הפצה INVIGORATES A PERSON.
Hafutza

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ב' פ' בא, ראש חודש שבט, שנת תשע"ט


 To my dear…


Thank you for your donation for the rent; in the merit of tzedakah may Hashem bless you with success.


You related that you feel distanced from Yeshiva lately. Chazal say (Yerushalmi peah 1, 1) on the pasuk (Devarim 32, 47): "כי לא דבר רק הוא מכם – ואם הוא ריק – מכם", that a feeling is contingent on a person only. This all depends on yourself. Many talmidim express such sentiments after leaving Yeshiva; they have different responsibilities, they must start working to sustain their families, and as a result they feel distanced.


Therefore, take my advice; start engaging yourself in הפצה; start spreading the Rebbe’s עצות, and encouragement, and although you will still be far, you will remain close at heart.


When you look around, you will realize that all the Talmidei Hichel Hakodesh who took הפצה as their calling, are full of energy, life, and vigor.


I noticed after the passing of Maharosh z”l; the talmidim who were strong with הפצה, didn’t seem at all confused; even during the levayah they had the clarity to continue with הפצה.


Those who fell into the category of mekablim – they were only here to receive; became so depressed, that even today; a few years since Maharosh’s passing, they still cannot find comfort.


Through being a משפיע you will feel close, and attached to the holy Rebbe.

#42 - MARRY OFF YOUR SON, BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.
Shidduch

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ב' פ' בא, ראש חודש שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear….


I’m writing the following letter on behalf of your son…


Have pity on him; he yearns to get married. Understandably, he is uncomfortable to discuss this with you or your wife, but he wept to me, that his entire Yiddishkeit is in danger. He begged me to open your eyes to the situation, and start listening to suggestions instead of claiming he isn’t ready yet etc.


He just left my office; he cried so desperately, the walls cried along. From the depths of his heart he wants to be good, but you have no idea what difficult nisyonas he is going through.


Therefore, do what is right for your child, and allow him to get married already. Don’t turn down good suggestions; if you wait too much longer you can chas vesholom lose everything.


Look around, and see the generation we are living in. Girls and boys are rachmana litzlon throwing away Yiddishkeit; one can not be confident enough that it won’t happen to him either. These tormented souls were also told to stop overacting or faking it etc.


Please don’t be offended with this letter, all I want is you to merit nachas. I have no ulterior motives, only to save your son.

#41 - ONLY TORAH REMAINS AFTER 120.

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ב' פ' בא, ראש חודש שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear…..


It gives me energy to see you sitting and learning with such enthusiasm. Your daily shiurim of Bavli, Yerushalmi, and Tosefta is what will remain, after you will reach 120. Remember this is what is eternal; everything else in the world is an illusion.


Dear brother! Stay strong with your avodas Hashem; continue davening and learning, and you will merit great miracles.


Thank you for your donation for the rent, in the merit of tzedakah may you be blessed in everything you do.

#40 - DO CHESED WITH OTHERS.

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ב' פ' בא, ראש חודש שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear….


I received your letter.


Regarding your question, how you can repay me for everything you gain here etc.; you will bring me great pleasure by doing chesed with other Yidden. I cannot tolerate individuals who cause machlokes; make sure to stay far away from someone who hurts another Yid.


Your main focus should be: love, kindness and compassion for every Yid. If you want to make me happy, greet every Yid with a smile and encouraging word.


Learn at least one daf Gemara every day; it will bring you blessings on this world, and the next.


May Hashem help you succeed in all your endeavors.

#39 - SET ASIDE TIME FOR A SHIUR IN SHULCHAN ARUCH.
Shulchan Aruch

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ב' פ' בא, ראש חודש שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear….


Thank you for your contribution for the rent; in the merit of tzedakah may you be blessed.


I’m giving you a set of Shulchan Aruch Ha’katan as a gift; find time to learn at least one סעיף every day. The holy Rebbe instructed us (Sichas Haran 29) “Every Yid is obligated to learn Halacha every day.”


It was a pleasure to spend Shabbos with you; you have beautiful children, and a devoted wife. It brought me great pleasure to hear that you closed your social media accounts after watching the music video "געוואלד טאטעס און מאמעס", and instead you spend your extra time with your wife and children.


Thank you for your dedication to the mosdos; this is a worthy investment, and will benefit you on this world and the next.


Accustom yourself to unburden your heart to Hashem; take the time every morning to tell him everything you are going through, disclose the trials and challenges the yetzer hora puts you through; and always daven for the future.


May you be healthy and blessed.

#38 - IT HURTS ME TO SEE YIDDEN SQUABBLE.
Machlokes

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום א' פ' בא, כ"ט טבת, שנת תשע"ט


Dear……


Instead of sending me loshon hora about different people, inform me of your siyumim, or write to me how much time you dedicate to learning, and talking to Hashem.


I’m not interested in machlokos; and I will continue to ensure there is shalom in our kehillah.


Notify me how many yidden you strengthened with the Rebbes עצות and seforim; it hurts me to hear gossip on another, I have no energy to petty arguments and strife.


The holy R’ Nosson would say “even when two lowly laborers’ argue, it hurts me personally;” likewise, my heart aches when I see yidden despise one another.


I’m waiting to receive only positivity in your letters.

#37 - AS A TALMID HICHEL HAKODESH, LOVE EVERY YID, NO MATTER WHO HE IS.
Machlokes

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום א' פ' בא, כ"ט טבת, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…..


I request of you a personal favor: “Don’t incite machlokes between my talmidim!”


You are very well aware how I sacrificed everything for you, so you should benefit from the holy Rebbe’s עצות and attain joy in your life. Now that you are finally settled and married, and have navigated the difficulties of life, I beg you, show some hakoros hatov and don’t cause arguments between my talmidim. I love every single one of my talmidim, and I want you to also love each other. When there is hate and animosity between you, it causes me immense pain.


I guaranteed Maharosh z”l that I will have no relation to machlokes, especially here in Hichel Hakodesh; and I will uphold my promise with mesirus nefesh.


Before I came to Hichel Hakodesh, I didn’t even realize what the problem with machlokes was; nowadays it is something I cannot tolerate. Maharosh begged us his entire life; never to take a side in machlokes, only leave it to others.


Therefore, I implore: “Have pity on me and don’t destroy me,” I cannot forgive this behavior, not on this world, or the next. Nobody is obligated to belong to our ,חבורה but if you do choose to belong here, then you cannot hate a single yid; for whichever reason in the world.


I have plenty of talmidim who learned in Yeshiva, and then later found themselves a different niche they fit in to; they are very successful there, each in his own way. If you want to continue your relationship with me, and you proclaim yourself as a Talmid Hichel Hakodesh, then you must love every Yid, and only see the positive in another.


Machlokes sickens me, and I take it very personally; R’ Nosson once said: “when I see two lowly laborers arguing it stabs me in my side;” even if R’ Nosson wasn’t acquainted with these individuals, it hurt him to see other Yidden squabble. Likewise, it stabs me in my heart to see Yidden fighting, and similarly it should hurt every person who witnesses it.


Good night.

#36 - TRUST HASHEM.
Emunah

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום א' פ' בא, כ"ט טבת, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…..


I’m sure you have heard the following vort on this weeks parsha: why Hashem commanded Moshe "בא על פרעה"; come to pharaoh, instead of "לך על פרעה"; go to pharaoh? The pshat is, Hashem was conveying to Moshe, “come, come with me to pharaoh;” meaning in whichever situation you find yourself, I am there with you. This comes to teach us, always remember, in every circumstance, Hashem is there and you have nothing to fear.


It’s time for you to emerge from your naivete, and worry which consumes you all day. Stop agonizing over the future, remember Hashem is in control, and his power is infinite; he is the one who provides parnassah, and one must surrender to him and realize ‘everything that transpires is for my benefit only.’


Strengthen your faith, and review constantly: “Hashem is in control;” by doing so, you will remove all your fears.


Chazal say (Sanhedrin 67:) A witch once wanted to cast magic on the holy Amora Reb Chanina; to which he replied "אי מסתייעת זילי עבידי, אין עוד מלבדו כתיב", you can try to work your witchcraft as much as you want, but I don’t fear you, because I believe in the holy Torah which states (Devarim 4, 35); "אין עוד מלבדו"; when one completely believes in Hashem, nothing in the world has the power to harm him; no דינים  or sorcery can manipulate control over him.


May Hashem help you succeed in all your endeavors.

#35 - WHEN ONE STANDS STRONG, AND DOES NOT SUCCUMB TO HIS CHALLENGES, HE MERITS MIRACLES.
Shidduch

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ג' פ' יתרו, ט"ז שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear….


Even though I have sent you a letter already, your pain still weighs on my heart; it is impossible to fathom what you are going through. You had everything ready to travel to your wedding, your Shtreimel, your clothing; you booked a ticket already, and suddenly you receive a message that the Kallah broke off the engagement. The more I think about it, the more heartbreaking it is for me; therefore, I want to write a few words to strengthen you.


Dear beloved…., the entire episode, however painful it is, is certainly לטובה; you’re thinking that someone was definitely behind this, and influenced the Kallah etc.; yes, someone was undoubtedly behind this; Hashem wanted this to happen; he stands behind the challenges a person goes through, and if a person perseveres, he merits great miracles. נסיון, entails the אותיות of נס; if one doesn’t succumb to his suffering, he is Zoche to a נס.


Thus, I beg you, continue with your daily shiurim, and continue coming to Yeshiva. There is no need to hide yourself from people; this is not your problem, and don’t view it as if it happened because something is wrong with you; this is a Nisoyan from Hashem, and he did it only for your benefit.


Daven for me I should have the strength to continue with the Yeshiva etc., Yoel Ben Ratza Rechel; your Tefillos are very valuable up in heaven.


Chazal state (מדרש אותיות דרבי עקיבא, אות 'ד') Hashem says: “People despise a poor person, but I have an enormous love for him; when he davens to me, I don’t send him away empty handed,” as we see in Tehillim, it says (74, 21), "ואני מקרב שכינתי אצלו בכל יום"  "אל ישב דך נכלם וגו'", and furthermore (Tehillim 34, 19) "קרוב ה' לנשברי לב"; see how Hashem cherishes when someone with a broken heart reaches out to him; especially a Bachur who is truly a beggar; he has nobody to share his life with. I think of you, and what you are going through now, you thought you are finally going to start a new chapter in your life, and now you find yourself once again alone; Daven for yourself, and for others because your Tefillos are very precious to Hashem. Chazal continue (מדרש אותיות דרבי עקיבא): “Hashem is constantly looking at the needy person;” as it states in Yeshayahu (66, 2): “His Tefillos are sweeter to Hashem than any sound in the entire world.”

#34 - EVEN WHEN YOUR SITUATION SEEMS BLEAK, REMEMBER HASHEM IS THERE.
Shidduch

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ב' פ' יתרו, חמשה עשר בשבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear…….


Even though I sent you a letter yesterday, I feel I must write to you again, to strengthen you while going through such an ordeal; that your Kallah broke off the Shidduch.


I beg you dear…, remain strong with all the strength you possess; don’t lose faith in Hashem, believe that everything Hashem does is for the person’s benefit. Review in your mind ‘everything Hashem does is certainly לטובה, even though it now seems like a calamity, I believe Hashem has his reasons.’ Chazal state (Berachos 60:): “A person should accustom himself to say: ‘everything Hashem does is לטובה’”. Not always do we see or realize how a certain hardship could benefit us, or why Hashem tests us with a particular Nisayon, but we must believe that Hashem is compassionate, and does only Chesed.


Accept this like a valuable gift; say to Hashem: “Hashem, I thank you for breaking off my Shidduch, I believe that this is certainly good for me. Hashem, give me strength to continue with my life, until my true Shidduch arrives. Hashem, it is so hard for me to be alone, I was about to get married and become a complete person, and now the Kallah decided not to continue. Help me Hashem find my true Zivug.” Pour your heart out to Hashem, and in this merit, you will find your Shidduch soon.

#33 - I HOPE YOU WILL RETURN TO YOUR WIFE.
Sholom Bayis

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום א' פ' וארא, כ"ב טבת, שנת תשעט


Lekuvid my dear…..


I miss you; when I see your son …… I am reminded of the good times we spent together.


I hope you will reunite with your wife, and raise a healthy household together.


I am inviting you for Shabbos.

#32 - THE IMPORTANCE OF KEEPING A TZADDIK IN ONE’S THOUGHTS; RENEW YOUR RESOLUTION FOR הפצה.
Hafutza

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום א' פ' וארא, כ"ב טבת, שנת תשעט


Lekuvid…..


There is a famous story which occurred with the holy Rebbe; a talmud once gifted him with a beautiful handcrafted wooden chair. When the Rebbe asked him, how long it took him to create it, he replied that it took him half a year. The Rebbe then asked “for half a year, you worked all day, on this chair?” the talmud answered “no, only for an hour each day.’ The Rebbe then exclaimed “is that so? For half a year, I was on your mind every day, for at least an hour?” It brought the Rebbe more pleasure that his chassid actually thought about him, than the gift alone. The act of just thinking of a tzaddik, brings a person blessing and salvation.


The Rebbe once asked a yid “tell me, have you raised your eyes heavenward yet today?” Through looking to the sky, one remembers Hashems presence in his life, and consequently he utters a few teffilos to Hashem. This is worth more than anything, in the entire world.


Yesterday night, there was a beautiful sheva berachos in yeshiva; both the chassan and Kallah are talmidei Hichel Hakodesh; we discussed and strengthened each other in the concept of הפצה. It’s a shame you didn’t participate, you could have benefited from the chizuk, especially now during שובבים, when we want to rectify our sins. One must make a firm resolution to continue with הפצה, and spread the Rebbe’s light to the entire world. As the Rebbe cites (ספר המידות, אות ניאוף, סימן מא)” one that wants to repent for his sins, especially the sin of פגם הברית, should concern himself with bringing back yidden to Hashem.”


May Hashem help you succeed in all your endeavors.

#31 - THE IMPORTANCE OF HAVING A HOLY PLACE; THE GREATNESS OF TRAVELING TO THE REBBE FOR ROSH HASHONAH.
Sholom Bayis, Shabbos, שובבי"ם, Uman, Kedusha

בעזרת ה' יתברך-ערב שבת קודש פ' שמות, כ' טבת, שנת תשעט


Lekuvid…..


This week is the first Shabbos of שובבים; we must be extremely excited with the opportunity to observe this Shabbos properly.


Maharosh would constantly review the following Medrash (תנחומא בראשית, ג) “If one rejoices with the holy Shabbos, and sweetens it in whichever way possible, it is equivalent to as if he would have fasted a thousand times.” Therefore, the yetzer hora is terrified that one will rectify everything, just through keeping Shabbos in the right manner; so, he makes it his business to distract a person with whatever he can. Already from Friday morning one should daven to Hashem that he should merit to be happy throughout Shabbos; that he shouldn’t lose his temper on Shabbos; and that he should rejoice with the holy Shabbos.


Baruch Hashem, we are moving forward with the building in Uman, the exterior is almost complete; Hashem should help us finish it already, it should be “והראנו בבנינו, ושמחנו בתקונו.” This building will be a beacon of light to the entire world, as we see already; the teachings of the holy Rebbe are gradually being absorbed in all different communities and kehillas.


I personally thank everyone for helping me; but really you are helping yourself. Why is it I need this building? Is it my desire to incur debt? The only reason for doing this is, because I want to protect your children.


Yesterday I sent a bochur out of yeshiva; another bochur came to tell me that not everything is in order with him; when I asked him to elaborate, he explained that a few years ago whilst being in Uman for Rosh Hashanah, this particular bochur was staying in the same hotel as him, and throughout yom tov, he was chasing after the small children in a suspicious and inappropriate manner. This brings out how essential it is to have a safe place where to stay in Uman, and I want to provide accommodations where we can protect our kids.


Last week Friday night, I had an interesting incident. I usually don’t leave the Beis Hamedresh during davening, but a random thought entered my mind ‘let me go outside and check what is going on’. I stepped out for a moment, and just at that time a yingerman on the way into the Beis Hamedresh approaches me. I immediately stopped his entry, and told him to leave at once. When he asked why, I told him “I have heard you are a pedophile rachmana litzlon.” He turned around and fled as fast as he could. It was divine providence that I met him outside, and was able to chase him away in time.


People ask me, what is the importance of repeatedly talking about protecting oneself, and one’s children, from מניוולים? And I think to myself ‘will I ever be able to stress enough on it?’ When people would be aware of what is going on nowadays; how boys and girls are being victimized by sick people rachmana litzlon, they would beg me “please talk more, we want to have the peace of mind, knowing our children are safe.”


I’m sending you some pictures of the construction in Uman, so you can see with your own eyes how your money is being used. I don’t want a repeat of the problems we had last year; the roof wasn’t sealed properly and every time it rained, the whole building was submerged in water. I want to finish it as soon as possible.


Don’t view this as unnecessary, because traveling to Uman is our first priority. The holy Rebbe proclaimed (Chai Maharan, 405) “The entire world depends on my Rosh Hashanah”; we all go to Uman every year; and we bring along our children once they turn 7, we must have a place where to be together.


Thanks to Hashem I have obtained tickets for the coming Rosh Hashanahהבא עלינו לטובה  שנת תש"פ; I should merit yet another opportunity to visit the holy Rebbe, together with my children.


We cannot take aggravation, money, or anything else into account; we travel to holy Rebbe with mesirus nefesh. Therefore, we took the plunge and started such a project, to erect a building, in order to have a safe locale. Give it a few years and this building will be small already, every year there is a fresh class of five and six year old’s, who also want to merit the guarantee from the holy Rebbe (Chai Maharan, 517) “I promise every child, which comes to me before he turns 7 years of age, he will merit to be wed, holy and pure.” What more do parents want then ehrliche doros? What better guarantee does one have, that their children reach marriageable age, righteous and pure from aveiros, without being נכשל in פגם הברית?


Yingeleit ask me, is it so crucial to take their children every year repeatedly, why won’t it suffice just once? I think to myself ‘true, it’s a lot of money, but what is the value you put on ehrliche doros??’ It costs me an awful lot of money; I’m traveling with five children this year, kein ayin hora. Make a calculation, one ticket costs a thousand dollars, so in total I’m paying six thousand dollars. It costs money; but we will do everything in the world to ensure our children stay holy and pure.


Gladden your wife; the holy Arizal says (שער הפסוקים פ' כי תשא, סימן לא, ועיין ברא"ש קמא 7, 19) the acronym for 'ושמרו בני ישראל את השבת' is 'ביאה'. This illustrates, that on Shabbos one must be together with his wife. This is the only reason the yetzer hora puts so much focus to cause arguments and strife between a husband and his wife; they end up sulking at each other, and as a result, their Shabbos is destroyed. Therefore, try with all your strength to stay happy, and relaxed throughout Shabbos.


Good Shabbos.

#30 - BARUCH HASHEM, THE DREAM WAS FULFILLED.
Hischazkus, Yiras Shomayim, Shidduch, Nachas, Bochur

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ה' פ' שמות, י"ט טבת, שנת תשעט


Lekuvid……


The chasunah which took place in yeshiva this week brings me great pleasure.


When we opened our cheder in Williamsburg for the first time; Maharosh z”l regaled that years ago, the person which headed the Breslev shul in Williamsburg was lamenting how hard his job was, and that there are times when he barely  has minyan. While standing on the street in conversation, a school bus passed by, and Maharosh turned to him and said, “give it some time, and buses with ‘Talmud Torah Breslev’ emblazoned on their side will encircle Williamsburg.” The latter replied “you‘re most certainly dreaming; there will never be such a thing”. Maharosh then smiled and said “Baruch Hashem that my dream has become a reality.” Maharosh then requested that we drive past his house, so he can show his rebbetzin the beautiful Mosdos we founded, which follows the teachings of the holy Rebbe.


During the chasunah I thought to myself: ‘one can truly see how Maharoshs vision became a reality;’ Maharosh wrote an endless number of letters on this subject, (see קונטרס לב אבות על בנים; ארך אפים אות ד', ועוד) that one should not waste time and money on expensive simchas, only to celebrate them simply.


On many occasions, Maharosh would ask the bochurim in Yeshiva: “what does a bachur really need? Only one thing, to find their shidduch.” Maharosh would say, all that is necessary is a minyan, and a tallis for the chuppah, and that is it! A bachur’s wish is to be able to quote the בת קיסר who said to the בן מלך after years of yearning for her shidduch (סוף סיפורי מעשיות מעשה ב', ממלך וקיסר) “and now בן מלך we have each other, it is time to go home.” Thanks to Hashem the unimaginable is now coming to fruition.


Someone came over to me during the chasunah and remarked “there is nothing lacking from this simcha, it is so beautiful, but one thing is missing; Maharosh should be sitting here with his famous smile, and be witness, that his hard work was not for naught.” I replied “Maharosh is here! where else would he be?” there, where one learns and reviews the lessons of a tzaddik, and conducts themselves according to his teachings, that is where the tzaddiks neshoma is. The holy Zohar brings (parshas acherei, daf 71:): “A tzaddiks presence is stronger once he has left the world, even more then when he was still alive”.


Tonight, there will iyh be a shiur; don’t make excuses why not to come, even though you think it’s the same old stuff as every week. When the yetzer hora tries too dissuade you with the argument “what is the point? You hear the same דיבורים week after week,” answer him: “and what is your chiddush? The same aveiros again and again……”


True, we will review the same thing as every week; I daven to Hashem that he should help me find a way into everyone’s hearts, and I should repeat only what Maharosh taught us all these years. First and foremost, Emunah; the seder derech halimud – the Rebbes directive of learning and התחדשות, starting anew. The importance of sholom bayis; the chinuch of our sons and daughters; and how careful one must be with his behavior at home, because despite their young age, children absorb and understand everything that occurs.


Use extra caution with your conduct at home, if one wishes to merit nachas, he must behave himself with yiras shomayim. A child which sees that his father is a sample of yiras shomayim, he prepares negel vasser before bedtime; he recites krias shema; he doesn’t raise his voice, or use coarse language, then he too will be ehrlich. The child will then imitate his parents, and also read krias shema and prepare negel vasser; and use only refined speech.


Daven to Hashem, that you should merit to always stay young and energized, despite your age.


Have a good day.

#29 - IMPROVE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM.
Hisbodedus, Tehillim, Doubts, Music

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פ' שמות, י"ח טבת, שנת תשעט


……. Student of Bais Faiga Breslev


I received your letter.


I’m very pleased to hear that you find the time every day, to say the yom tehillim; you cannot imagine the power tehillim has, especially for girls which need an extra dose of סייעתא דשמיא, to merit an ehrliche shidduch.


Regarding your problem, that you have a hard time approaching and communicating with people etc.; the eitzah for this is to make it your second nature to talk to Hashem. The more you accustom yourself to talk to him, the stronger your Emunah will be, and the more confidence you will have in yourself. If you believe you are important in Hashems eyes, this will naturally carry over to all other aspects of your life, and you will stop doubting and questioning yourself with “what will so and so think of me?” and “what will so and so say about me?”


Its very healthy to listen to lively music; there are an abundance of ehrliche singers nowadays, who sing songs of Emunah; this chases away the doubts and negativity from a person.


May Hashem help you succeed in everything you do.


 

#28 - HOW FOOLISH IT IS, TO WASTE THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS, ON JUST A FEW HOURS.
Chinuch, Yiddish Gelt, Chasuna

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פ' שמות, י"ח טבת, שנת תשעט


Mrs……


Thank you for assisting with the chasunah in yeshiva; for organizing the chair, and beautiful flowers for the kallah. The guests couldn’t tell that these were fake flowers, and not fresh ones.


It’s terrible to see how wedding hall maintenance carelessly throw away expensive fresh flowers once a chasunah has ended, whilst the mechutanim haven’t yet figured out a way to pay for them. Therefore, thank you for arranging the flowers, which we can put away from one chasunah to the next.


I’m sure you witnessed the happiness at the chasunah; people can’t stop talking about It - how beautiful it was, and how foolish it is to waste thousands of dollars which one does not have, resulting in debt for the rest of their life. People came up to me and asked “what is lacking here? It’s so beautiful,” I replied “one thing is missing – חובות, debt.”


Thus, I thank you, and all the other woman from the kehillah, which made the simcha so special, so heimish, and with such a yiddishe chein. So many people pitched in to make this a reality; I have already written a letter to Mrs ……., to thank her for taking the pictures; my wife cooked the fish and potato kugels, Mrs …. Prepared the dips; I would appreciate if you could send me a list of everyone who helped, or prepared the food, so I can write them a personal thank you note. It is imperative to me, that we establish in our kehillah, what Maharosh taught us all these years.


Regards from your son ………, he conducts himself with yiras shomayim. I explained to him that he should cut off contact with ……..; he is an unhealthy yingerman which behaves inappropriately rachmana litzlon. It is important that he hear it from you too. He should sever all his ties with him and keep his distance.

#27 - THANK YOU FOR HELPING WITH THE CHASUNAH IN YESHIVA.
Nachas, Chasuna

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פ' שמות, י"ח טבת שנת תשעט


Thank you for helping me establish the opportunity, for members of our kehillah, to marry off their children, without having to go into debt. Thanks to Hashem, this week we celebrated the fourth chasunah in yeshiva, free of charge.


It is self-understood that I would never have been able to accomplish this alone, only through the efforts of the kehillah and my devoted talmidim, were we able to make this a reality.


Therefore, a heartfelt thank you for sacrificing your precious time; I know the afternoon is a demanding time for a mother of small children, yet, you put it all aside to be present, and take pictures of the kallah and her family. May Hashem repay you with nachas from your children; and may Hashem help you find a good shidduch for your daughter ….., and merit to marry her off here in yeshiva, also at no cost.


Regards from your sons ……. and …….; they daven and learn well, but most importantly they behave themselves with respect.


Chazal cite (Shabbos 10:) הנותן מתנה לחבירו צריך להודיעו"”, when someone gifts someone with something, they should make sure the latter knows about it. Rashi explains “שמתוך כך יהא אוהבו,” through this one will generate love and goodwill. Chazal elaborate: that when one feeds another’s child, they should leave the child’s face dirty from the food they gave him, that when the child’s mother asks “why is your face unclean?” the child will explain that so and so fed him, and this will bring about appreciation and gratitude. Therefore, it is my duty to inform you how devoted I am to your …..; I treat him with love and patience, and I truly care for him. He will grow to be an ehrliche yid, and find a good shidduch iy"h.


Thank you.

#26 - SIMCHA IS MOST IMPORTANT WHILE SERVING HASHEM.
Mishnayos, Simcha, Shidduch

 


 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פ' שמות, י"ח טבת, שנת תשעט


….


Stay strong, and continue focusing on being happy, solely with the fact that you were created a yid.


Simcha is the most important aspect in avodas Hashem; when a person is happy, and serves Hashem with simcha, he merits divine protection, which also saves him from פגם הברית. As it states in tehillim (104, 34-35) “אנכי אשמח בה', יתמו חטאים מן הארץ, ורשעים עוד אינם” through rejoicing with Hashem, then: “יתמו חטאים מן הארץ” there is no more sin. (Likutei Maharan chelek 1, siman 169)


If you say mishnayos you will acquire a pure mind; try not to be influenced by your conflicted thoughts, just continue learning and saying tehillim. The first letters of tehillim and mishnayos spell מ"ת, indicating that these two cleanses a person from the impurity of the dead; likewise, mishnayos and tehillim revive a person from his dead, emotionless state, and infuse him with new life to continue achieving.


Nonetheless, you cannot merit this, only if one has the middah of תמימות – simplicity (to believe without asking questions); the last letters of tehillim and mishnayos spell ת"ם – we must listen to what tzaddikim advise us without skepticism.


You did the right thing by throwing away the number someone gave you, which would have led you to aveiros rachmana litzlon, in this merit you will find an ehrliche zivug. Don’t despair, in no time you will find your shidduch.

#25 - THE BEAUTIFUL CHUPPAH FOR THE CHASUNAHS IN YESHIVA.THE BEAUTIFUL CHUPPAH FOR THE CHASUNAHS IN YESHIVA.
Chasuna

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פרשת שמות י"ח טבת שנת תשעט


Lekuvid my dear…… 


Thank you for the beautiful chuppah which you designed for the chasunahs here in yeshiva; it would be a good idea to install lights around the top, so that during the winter nights the area should be illuminated.


People keep asking me: “what is the meaning of the words embroidered on the chuppah ‘I have achieved and triumphed, and I will continue to do so’?” (איך האב אויסגעפירט און איך וועל אויספירן) People think that it is some sort of insult, to the extent an individual came to tell me that someone was affronted by it.


This reminds me of a story. Someone once came to the Rav of the city and demanded a din Torah with so and so who embarrassed him publicly. During the din Torah the Rav investigated and asked “so how was it that he embarrassed you?” the accuser answered “the defendant walked into shul and proclaimed loudly: “by the time I count to three, the fool here must leave!” and he continued “I immediately left the place, and now I want compensation for my humiliation”. The Rav smiled and answered “he didn’t embarrass you, you embarrassed yourself! Who asked you to be the one to leave the shul?”


Reb Nosson z”l relates (Chai Maharan, 229) “I asked the Rebbe (before the Rebbe left the world) ‘what will become of all the teachings and פעולות, the Rebbe still wants to achieve?” The Rebbe turned to the crowd of people around him and asked “do you hear his question?” then went on to proclaim “have I not carried through already? I have achieved and I will eternally continue to do so!”


We see literally every day – the Rebbe has won. Gradually the entire world is starting to see the Rebbes light, everyone has heard of התבודדות -talking to Hashem. The seder derech halimud, the Rebbes directive of learning is being practiced all over, bochurim and yingeleit from all walks of life say Mishnayos and dafim Gemara. This was the Rebbes goal, everyone no matter his status or background should daven and learn.


Take the chasunah in yeshiva as an example, what better proof do you need, to see that the Rebbes vision and teachings are being fulfilled? People are marrying off their children while they are still young and pure; this is what the Rebbe meant with “נצחתי ואנצח.”


May Hashem help us raise our children in good health, and may we merit to marry them off while they are still young, without any calculations for kavod etc. only to always have their best interests on our minds.

#24 - THROW AWAY YOUR SMARTPHONE.
Smartphone

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פרשת שמות, י"ח טבת, שנת תשעט


Lekuvid my dear ……


I received your letter.


For your own sake – I beg of you; get rid of your smartphone. I have such pity on you for all the suffering you are going through, you watch movies every night and it makes you so miserable. Really you are only fooling yourself; you promise yourself you’ll only watch so and so, and then before you know it you are already deep in שאול תחתית. This causes you to walk around looking so depressed, its mamish painful to look at you; you are suffering terribly from your aveiros.


Therefore, I beg of you my dear beloved…… I know you yearn to be good, and how you continue trying even though you fail repeatedly; you just bought your fourth smartphone, this is after throwing away your previous ones because you wanted to repent. Listen to what the holy Rebbe has to say, find a quiet corner and beg by Hashem “Hashem save me! I’m drowning in טומאה, and I see no way out. Holy Father! Have pity on me; my life is so dark and bitter, more than anything I want to shake off my aveiros, but it is just not happening. Give me the strength Tatte to stop looking at garbage, 'לב טהור    ברא לי אלקים' give me a new heart, 'ורוח נכון חדש בקרבי' and renew my will – help me be ehrlich and holy.


You cannot imagine dear……. what a positive affect such tefillos have. The holy Zohar says (parshas balak, 195) when a person pours his heart out to Hashem, Hashem says “I want the entire heavenly court to step aside, and I want to be alone with the person in pain,” and Hashem has no greater pleasure then when someone cries his heart out to him, all the heavenly gates are wide open for a broken heart, and his tefillos ascend without רשות.


What we can learn from this is: when a person finds a quiet corner, and gives himself over to Hashem; he tells him everything he is going through, these tefillos ascend straight up to heaven, Hashem answers the downtrodden before the biggest tzaddik.


The Zohar continues that when Dovid Hamelech saw the impact of the poor man’s tefillah, he took off his royal clothing and sat himself down on the ground and begged Hashem (Tehillim 86,1) “תפלה לדוד, הטה ה' אזנך ענני” Hashem help me, and listen to my plea, “כי עני ואביון אני  as a lowly beggar I come to you. This teaches us that Hashem is extremely close to someone with a broken heart.


Dear …….. listen to the Rebbe, and make it part of your life to daven and talk to Hashem. When a person reveals everything, and tells Hashem exactly what is bothering him, how badly he wants to be ehrlich, but how hard it is for him; how he unfortunately commits such terrible aveiros, but despite all this he still wants to be good, Hashem takes away all the דינים from the person and forgives him for his sins.


Maharosh z”l would say (אשר בנחל, מכתב א, רפג) there is a heavenly Malach whose name is Ezrial, his obligation is to carry up the tefillos of bochurim which fall in the aveira of פגם הברית rachmana litzlon. He takes these tefillos and builds beautiful palaces for Hashem, which infuse the neshomas with new strength to continue their struggle.


Be strong and in no time,  you will find your shidduch.

#23 - TRUST HASHEM AND YOUR LIFE WILL BE SWEET.

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פ' שמות, י"ח טבת, שנת תשעט


Lekuvid……..


 Forgive me that I don’t reply to your letters; I’m so busy that I don’t even manage to complete my daily tasks.


I have meetings scheduled with the melamdim, teachers and office staff; I must ensure everything is in order with the building in Uman, the camp and the shtetel; I teach chasanim and guide couples with their marriage; I respond to countless letters and requests; and I organize the preparations in yeshiva before a chasunah. On top of that I prepare and deliver a shiur in Bavli and Yerushalm daily, daven and say the yom Tehillim, then give another two shiurim to the bochurim; one in gemara and halacha, and one in the Rebbes seforim. Subsequently, I must finish my own shiurim, on Mikra, Mishna, Nach, Mishlei, Tosefta, Gemara, Halacha, Rambam, Medrash, and the Rebbes seforim. I give a shiur to the teachers and students of Bais Faiga once a week; and after all, I also have a wife and precious children which want to spend some time with me. Likewise, I also have to eat and sleep a little, but nonetheless, I’ll write some חיזוק so you have strength to continue with your holy work.


The first and most valuable thing to you should be your wife and children; don’t fall into the illusion of ‘friends’, there is no such thing as a true friend, the only real friend you have is your wife. Therefore, I request from you again: don’t chase after friends; instead invest your time and efforts in your wife and children.


On numerous occasions I think to myself; how many countless times have I already written the following; but I’ll write it once again because I believe in the wisdom of the holy Rebbe who said “דיבור האט א כח – meaning, speech has a tremendous power. I’ll continue imploring repeatedly, until it penetrates deep into your heart: “Dear brother, we have a great creator which sustains and protects all; he never forgets or overlooks anyone, and if you surrender yourself to him completely, your life will be blessed.


The holy Rebbe says (Likutei Maharan, chelek 2, siman 82) “when a person sees that all his occurrences, are the opposite of what he actually wants; he should realize, this comes because the person insists and stubbornly says ‘I want’ - meaning, everything must go his way, and he is not ready to accept רצון ה'. Through this he removes himself, and severs his connection to our father in heaven, and once a person removes himself from Hashem, nothing will happen the way he wants.” Therefore, remember this klal – if you submit yourself to Hashem and accept Hashems will, everything in your life will go the way you want it to.


Before going to bed at night recite krias shema; Chazal cite (berachos 5.): “one that reads krias shema before going to sleep, gets rid of all the מזיקים which try to harm him. Chazal say further (berachos 8:) The Tana Rava warned his children “and you should never rest in a gentile’s bed”, the gemara gives a few explanations to what this means, the first being “he warned them not to go to sleep, without reading krias shema”. What we learn from this is; the importance of shema before going to bed.


I once again beg of you: “wherever you wish to go – go only with your wife;” you want to go on vacation? Together with your wife. You want to travel to kivrei tzaddikim? Only with your wife. You wish to do something different? Visit the moon? Also, only with your wife.


I hope you accept my words, which come straight from my heart.

#22 - שבת התוועדות FOR THOSE WHO HELP OUT.
Tzedukeh, Sholom

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פרשת שמות, י"ח טבת, שנת תשעט


Lekuvid……. Talmud yeshiva Tiferes Hatorah


A heartfelt thank you for all you do to help me out; especially that you undertook the task to help me repay my debts I incurred from the building in Uman. Thanks to Hashem I have already repaid part of the debt and today I sent a sum of money to Uman, to complete the building.


The two shabbosim you arranged for the bochurim which help out in yeshiva were beautiful, and I’m pleased to hear that you are organizing one for the yingeleit too. I want to request from you; please make sure this Shabbos doesn’t have the opposite effect, I don’t want anyone to be insulted. The talmidum should understand this is purely to raise money, to finish the building in Uman.


I love every single one of my talmidum, and someone that learns with talmidum can understand the connection you develop with them, and not even completely; not too many which are עוסק with talmidum spend days and nights with them, without expecting anything in return. Praised be Hashem, ten years have passed since I first started learning with talmidum, I sit with bochurim from morning until night, I don’t receive a wage from the yeshiva; I don’t do it for the money, and either way there is no extra dollar to pay me with.


For years I sat with your brother…… and your brother-in-law……; they can explain what a Rosh Yeshiva truly means. Nowadays I’m split between so many different obligations, the yeshiva, the cheder and school, the couples and the kollel etc.…, but during those day we would sit together for 24 hours a day. It would be worthwhile for you to ask them how we established this holy place, we built it with blood, and not with money.


Therefore, I chas vesholom don’t want my talmidum to think this is only for specific yungeleit; tell them what you want to accomplish with this Shabbos, that it’s the only way to help me repay my debts. If you make a calculation you will see that all my talmidum are baalei mesirus nefesh, זה בכה וזה בכה.  One helps with the kollel, another collects the rent, someone cooks in Uman, all this alone adds up to thousands of dollars. I remember speaking to you about making a special Shabbos for all that help out in different aspects, but the conclusion was, that its just not possible because everyone does something.


Therefore, I beg of you, be careful to preserve the shalom between us; there should only be love and goodwill between one another. I know it’s hard work to make everyone happy; everyone has their opinion and way of thinking, but here things are different; we all strive for one goal: to bring the Rebbes teachings to every Jewish heart, and his light to every Jewish home. It should be “וידע כל פעול כי אתה ,פעלתו" every yid should taste the sweetness of התבודדות, and every yid should know he has a way to rectify his sins.


Stay strong and you will find your zivug iyh, I’m not at all worried for you, it is completely clear to me that Hashem will help you very soon.

#21 - REGARDING ENGLISH IN SCHOOL.
Appreciation, School, English Studies

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פ' שמות, י"ח טבת, שנת תשעט


Mrs……


I received your letter.


I’m very pleased to hear that you are satisfied with our school; we have outstanding and talented teachers, which go to great lengths that the girls should grow up to be ehrlich, and continue building Klal Yisroel.


Regarding your daughters English, she cannot speak fluently yet etc.; this isn’t a result of our school, this is just the way it works with any child. While they are still young, they speak in their mother tongue, and gradually throughout their school years, they learn another language. We have students from both Williamsburg and Boro Park; true, the children from Boro Park have a fluent English, but when it comes to Yiddish it’s difficult for them. They end up translating every word before expressing themselves, and even then, their Yiddish sounds awkward. Vice versa, the students which come from Williamsburg, and their first language is Yiddish, have a hard time expressing themselves in English, but throughout the years they perfect it.


Thank Hashem for the wonders and miracles he did with you; you have a dear husband and beautiful children kein aiyin hora. You must thank and praise him for the past, and continue davening for the future; that your children grow up to be ehrlich and pure. Especially nowadays, the yetzer hora’s only goal is to entrap yiddishe neshomus; boys and girls from the most wonderful homes are being led astray. One must daven and say tehillim, and not spare any tears, in order to merit righteous children.