Letters from the Rosh Yeshiva Shlit"a

#120 - BE CAREFUL THERE SHOULDN’T BE BULLYING BETWEEN YOUR TALMIDIM.
Chinuch

בעזרת ה' יתברך – ערב שבת קודש פרשת משפטים, מברכים החודש, כ"ו שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…. Melamed in Talmud Torah Hichel Hakodesh Breslev


אשרי חלקך, that you are employed with such holy work. As a Kitah Alef Melamed you have the awesome opportunity and responsibility to teach your Talmidim the holy אותיות of the Torah and instill in them Yiras Shomayim.


Chazal relate (Yerushalmi Damai 7, 3): “Rebbi Yochanon saw a Melamed fasting and remarked: “It is forbidden for you to fast, for even a simple laborer is prohibited from fasting because he will be less productive and cause a loss for his employer, thus certainly you who is עוסק במלאכתו של הקדוש ברוך הוא  cannot fast, for you must have energy to teach your Talmidim”; we can see from this how Chashuv a Melamed’s work is, that he is working solely for Hashem.


I request from you to be vigilant that there not be a child in your class who bullies other children; H’avreich….. related that his son comes home from Cheder every day in fear of another boy in the class, to the point that he refuses to go to Cheder altogether. It is a Melamed’s responsibility to keep his eyes open and notice such behavior, that such things should Chas Vesholom not occur.


Thus, I ask you to speak to the boys that it is unacceptable to hurt other children or bully other children; they are still young – Kitah Alef, now is the time to be them Mechanech. Shlomo Hamelech states in Mishlei (22, 15): “A child is born with bad Middos and difficult natures, and it is our responsibility to Mussur and discipline them, they should learn the right way to behave.”


The path we must follow to raise our children must come from the holy Torah; unfortunately many people are influenced by foreign methods that don’t come from the Torah, instead they turn to therapists whose Hashkofos are far from Yiddishkeit and originate from the Goy; they believe that the right way of being Mechanech is that children are entitled to their every desire, and the parents enable them to get away with unsuitable behavior. We all know the outcome of this approach – the children grow up crippled and have a very hard time later in life.


Therefore, I beg you, imbue Middos Toivos into your Talmidim; tell them stories about the severity of hurting another child, and if a child uses his hands you should punish him etc. There are children who don’t realize that when they hit someone it actually hurts; such children sometimes must also receive a Potch to experience how it feels to be hurt.


Maharosh would relate, a woman once came to the holy Satmar Rebbe Zt”l and cried bitterly that her husband hits her, and rolled up her sleeve to show the Rebbe the marks from vicious behavior. The Rebbe immediately sent his Gabbai to summon the husband, and when he arrived, without any explanation the Rebbe took his cane and started striking him. The man cried out “What did I do that I deserve such treatment from the Rebbe?” The Rebbe replied “I believe you are not aware how if feels when you hit somebody; I want you to experience that Petch actually hurt.”


There are times when you have to give a child a taste of his own behavior; Chas Vesholom that a different child should have a fear of coming to Cheder; the Yingerman told me that his son is having a hard time with עברי since he is being bullied.


It brings me great pleasure that you come to Kollel in the evening to learn Halacha; you cannot imagine how much enjoyment it brings me, to see Talmidim after they get married sitting and learning the holy Torah.


May Hashem help you succeed in all your endeavors.

#119 - TEACH YOUR CHILD TO STAND UP FOR HIMSELF.
Chinuch

בעזרת ה' יתברך – ערב שבת קודש פרשת משפטים, מברכים החודש, כ"ו שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear….


If your child refuses to go to Cheder because there is a different child who bullies him, first talk to the Melamed. If you see it doesn’t improve, teach your child to fight back.


Although hitting is not a Yiddishe approach; it is befitting for Non-Jews, as we see Chazal say (Bereishis 27, 22): "הידים ידי עשיו", however, this is applicable for adults, or once one is grown and mature etc.; it also means if one is embarrassed, it is advisable to remain silent and not answer; but if we’re dealing with a young child who is still developing, you must teach him not to be afraid of anyone in the world. If other children start up with him, they hurt him or embarrass him, tell him to go to his Melamed, and if it doesn’t help, he should retaliate and teach the boys a lesson; the Rebbe says “sometimes one also has to give a Potch.”


Thus, I request from you; first talk to the Melamed and the Menahel, tell them how your child is suffering from one of his classmates; this doesn’t mean the child who bullies is a bad child, he just hasn’t been taught yet that this isn’t the way to behave. Some children don’t realize what they are doing, until they feel the same treatment in return. If no one takes notice though, teach your child ‘self-defense’ etc. he should know how to protect himself, he shouldn’t become a victim for a bully השם ישמרינו.


May Hashem help us we shouldn’t have to use this method, but we must prepare our children to defend themselves and not let their spirits be crushed by anyone in the world.

#118 - A MELAMED MUST WORK TOGETHER WITH THE PARENTS.
Chinuch, Melamed

בעזרת ה' יתברך – ערב שבת קודש פרשת משפטים, מברכים החודש, כ"ו שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…, Melamed in Talmud Torah Hichel Hakodesh Breslev.


It brought me great pleasure to test your students in Mishnayos this week; the children really knew the material well. One can see the efforts you invest in them, may Hashem repay you with Nachas from your children.


Regarding the child who doesn’t behave himself with respect; I would advise you to speak to his parents. Baruch Hashem the parents who are Talmidei Hichel Hakodesh only want to do רצון השם; they all follow the same path and want their children to be respectful. We all know that the most important foundation by the Rebbe was Derech Eretz, as the Rebbe once proclaimed ‘if the Royals would be aware of the Derech Eretz I teach my Talmidim, they would send me their children to learn Derech Eretz.” Therefore, speak to the child’s parents, they are very considerate, and they will certainly help you, and talk to their child to behave with more respect.


Likewise I also ask you; if my son ….. doesn’t behave with the utmost respect let me know; I want to raise my children to be Derech Eretzdik.


Make sure to tell the children stories of Tzaddikim daily; the holy Rebbe says (Likutei Maharan, Chelek 1, Siman 248) “You should know, that retelling stories of Tzaddikim is a very significant act, because when one hears a story of a Tzaddik, his heart is awakened to Hashem, and he then possesses a strong urge to also become a righteous person.”  When one sees what the Tzaddik achieved by triumphing over his Nisyonas, he gets the energy and ambition to also become a Tzaddik. Especially children, when they hear a story, they are motivated to emulate the Tzaddik.


May Hashem bless you with success in all your endeavors.

#117 - ONE WHO STRENGTHENS OTHERS ALSO NEEDS CHIZUK.

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ה' פרשת משפטים, כ"ה שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To Mrs….., Principal in Bais Faiga Breslev.


I hope you and the rest of the teaches were satisfied by yesterday’s shiur; it is very important to me to talk to the teachers weekly, and strengthen them in their holy work. Chazal state (Sifra Nosoi, Piske 1): "אין מחזקין אלא למחוזקין", those who encourage others, need the most encouragement in return. Thus, Melamdim and teachers require the most Chizuk.


I give a Shiur every morning after the Gemara Shiur to the Melamdim; it makes me happy that we organized a Shiur once a week for the teachers too. I recently heard that teachers all around the world listen to the Shiurim on ‘Kol Breslev’, and gain much Chizuk from them.


I greatly appreciate that you once again made a gathering for the married graduates of ‘Bais Faiga’, to strengthen them and teach them how to conduct themselves after marriage.


If possible, invite Mrs…. to join; she is like one of our students and can also benefit from the Shiurim.


Regards from your son …..; I tested his class today, he learns very well and everyone has Nachas from him.


Thank you for your donation for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in all your endeavors.

#116 - START WORKING ON THE CALENDAR FOR THE FOLLOWING YEAR.

 בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ה' פרשת משפטים, כ"ה שבט, שנת תשע"ט


 


To my dear…


Thank you for your contribution for the Yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in all your endeavors.


It brings me distress that this year’s calendar is full of mistakes; every morning when I refer to it to check for today’s Shiurim on Bavli, Yerushalmi, and Tosefta etc., it bothers me again that it’s full of errors.


Therefore, I request from you, start working on next year’s calendar; bring me a few samples, and I’ll give them to Talmidim to proofread, and hopefully this way there won’t be any inaccuracies.


Please don’t be insulted that I’m telling you this; it’s just a shame, since so many Talmidim rely on it for their daily Shiurim, according to the Seder Derech Halimud, as Maharosh established.

#115 - THANK YOU FOR ASSISTING OUR KOLLEL ‘HICHEL HAKODESH’.

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ה' פרשת משפטים, כ"ה שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear….


Thank you for your contribution for the Yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you have success in all your endeavors.


Thank you for helping the Kollel ‘Hichel Hakodesh’; I heard you invested great efforts that the fundraiser in Boro Park should be successful, it was a pleasure for me to attend.


I wasn’t initially planning to come, but after hearing how much strength you exerted for its success, I wanted to take a share in the Mitzva of supporting Torah.


If you have an opportunity, come up to the Kollel and see for yourself how well the Yingeleit learn; they start the day with the Daf Gemara, and continue all day with Halacha.


In this merit, may you have success in everything you do.


From your Rosh Yeshiva who constantly Davens for your success.

#114 - THANK YOU FOR HOSTING THE FUNDRAISER FOR THE KOLLEL IN YOUR HOME.

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ה' פרשת משפטים, כ"ה שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Mrs…


Thank you for your donation for the Yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed in all your endeavors.


Thank you for hosting the fundraiser for the Kollel in your home.


In the Zchus of assisting the Kollel Yingeleit in their Torah learning, may you merit to see Nachas from your children, and may your children grow up to be Talmidei Chachomim, as Chazal state (Shabbos 23:): "דרחים רבנן", one who loves Talmidei Chachomim, "הוו ליה בנין רבנן"- will merit children who will be Talmidei Chachomim, and "דמוקיר רבנן", one who respects Talmidei Chachomim, "הוו ליה חתנוותא רבנן"- will merit sons-in-law who will be Talmidei Chachomim.


May Hashem grant you an abundance of blessings for opening your home to Talmidei Chachomim, as Chazal say (Brochas 63:): “One who invites a Talmid Chochom into his home, or one who hosts an appeal to raise money that Talmidei Chachomim should have a home – will merit Heavenly protection and salvation”.

#113 - REMAIN STRONG WITH הפצה.
Hafutza

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ה' פרשת משפטים, כ"ה שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear….


Thank you for your contribution for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in all your endeavors.


Yesterday I tested your son’s class, I must inform you how well he performed, he repeats the Mishnas with energy and Geshmak – it’s a pleasure to hear.


May Hashem help him grow up to be Ehrlich, and may you merit Nachas from him, and from the rest of your children.


I ask you dear…., continue engaging in הפצה; there is a fire raging, and Yiddishe Kinder – boys, girls, and Bochurim are unfortunately being destroyed; only the Rebbe’s Seforim can save them from the flames of ניאוף, and ignite in them the Emunah to believe in Hashem.


Remain strong!

#112 - ATTEND THE LEIL SHISHI SHIUR; YOU WILL ONLY BENEFIT FROM IT.

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ה' פרשת משפטים, כ"ה שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear….


Nowadays it’s very easy to create a Kiddush Hashem; it used to be that one had to jump into a fire to sanctify Hashem’s name, but in our generation a Yingerman who is Ehrlich is a מקדש שם שמים ברבים.


People constantly come over to me, and give me regards how Talmidim from Yeshiva generate a Kiddush Hashem with their behavior; just as the holy Rebbe said (Chai Maharan, 454): “There will be a time, when a simple person, an Ehrliche Yid, will be such a חידוש as the Baal Shem Tov Zt”l.”


If you work between people who don’t watch their language, but you use refined speech, and are careful not to speak ניבול פה, then you are already a חידוש עצום, and if you continue to go to Shul after falling through with an Aveira, then you are a חידוש שבחידושים. If you have another Yid’s wellbeing on your mind, or you give another Yid a Sefer or קונטרס, then you are truly righteous.


I beg you; block your access to inappropriate material and guard your eyes; Chazal say (Chulin 63:): “There is an impure bird by the name of 'איה' but the Chachomim call it 'ראה'; why is it called 'ראה'? Because she can see very far distances; she can be on a tree in Bavel, and spot a נבילה all the way over in Eretz Yisroel.” This is very easy to comprehend nowadays; with our advanced technology one can be anywhere in the world and see a נבילה at the other end of the world. One can sit in his office, or his car etc. with a small device, and watch repulsive things Rachmana Litzlon; Beseech Hashem: “Hashem, I am almost comparable to the 'ראה' who searches where she can spot a נבילה; I know these actions only hurt me, they bring me 'רעה' – all kinds of damage, help me merit to be an Ehrliche Yid.” If it is hard for you to express yourself, you suddenly become mute, at least give a Krechtz, cry out to Hashem, and you will merit to emerge from your darkness and become a pure person.


Tonight I will Iy”h give a Shiur, why don’t you come for some encouragement? If you tell me you found another place where you gain Chizuk for Torah and Tefilla, I will be very happy for you. However, you haven’t, so what do you have? Who gives you Chizuk to go to Shul every day and lay Tefillin? Who encourages you to have patience with your wife and children, and talk pleasantly to your wife?


I recall how inspired I would come home from Maharosh’s Leil Shishi Shiurim; on the way back, we felt like we just emerged from the cave where R’ Shimon hid for 13 years etc.; life seemed so sweet, and we all repented for our sins. When Maharosh spoke about Shalom Bayis, we all concluded ‘enough is enough! As soon as we come home, we will ask for forgiveness, and from today onwards only respect our wives.’ When Maharosh spoke about Emunah, and talking to Hashem we all thought ‘that’s it! Hashem is our only hope; why should we chase after people who can’t help us? we will only turn to Hashem.’


Come to the Leil Shishi Shiur and you will feel the same way; Maharosh can be found on Skillman Street because a Tzaddik is there where one talks about him. Baruch Hashem, the fire is still burning, and the bird’s wings are still fluttering, they are decreasing and increasing the flames, and whoever tastes the fare cannot tolerate תאוות ממון. (See Sippurei Maasos, story 12, story of the Baal Tefilla.)


May Hashem help you succeed in everything you do.

#111 - BE PROUD WITH YOUR 'צלם אלקים'.

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ה' פרשת משפטים, כ"ה שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear…


I want to strengthen you to continue coming to the shiur every morning; a day that starts with Torah and Tefilla is a completely different day. Especially that you live here in Williamsburg, you should certainly come to the Gemara Shiur, we obtainהתחזקות  and עצות for our daily lives, just as the Rebbe and Maharosh taught us to.


Remain strong with your צלם אלקים – your beard and Peyos; this will bring you great abundance. You look very good with your beard and Peyos. Chazal say on the Pasuk "הנך יפה רעיתי הנך יפה עיניך יונים", from Shir Hashirim, "מה יונה זו מצינת, כך ישראל מצינין, בתגלחת, במילה, וציצית", (Shir Hashirim Raba 4, 2) Klal Yisroel is attractive in the manner in which they cut their hair, they don’t shave it like the Gentile nations etc.; this is our pride and beauty.


May Hashem help you establish an Ehrliche Yiddishe home לשם ולתפארת .


Thank you for your donation for the Yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in all your endeavors.

#110 - IT’S TIME TO START LOOKING FOR A SHIDDUCH FOR YOUR DAUGHTER.
Shidduch

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ד' פרשת משפטים, כ"ד שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Mrs…..


 Your daughter came up to me today, and she cried that she yearns to get married already; thus, I ask you to start listening to suggestions and seeking an Ehrliche Shidduch for her.


Although we spoke already, and we determined to wait a while, I think she is ready to enter the next stage in life. She is mature and perceptive, and she wants to start her future.


Be strong, Hashem will not forsake you. Whatever you desire ask from him.


Thank you for your donation for the yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in all your endeavors.

#109 - WHEN ONE SEEKS REFUGE IN THE HOLY TORAH HE IS PROTECTED FROM ALL HARM.
Limud HaTorah

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ד' פרשת משפטים, כ"ד שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


Even though I have written countless letters to you on the greatness of learning a Daf Gemara a day, I’m writing yet another letter to you because I hope you still do so.


Gemara is a safe haven where one can escape to while going through hardships; even though you are preoccupied with the hassle of daily life, you should be careful not to let the opportunity to learn the Daf slip by. The pages of Gemara are the sweetest place to seek refuge בעת צרה. As Chazal relate (Shemos Raba 27, 3): “There were hunters trying to capture a bird, so she escaped to the kings palace knowing that in such a place nobody will dare shoot at her”; likewise, when a person is going through difficulties the best place to go hide is by Hashem, there, no one can harm you.


Therefore, I beg you dear…, start a routine of learning a Daf Gemara a day; even if you don’t understand what you are learning say the words without comprehending. Don’t mock this concept, because it’s not a joke. This world is an illusion, what is ridiculed here is not necessarily ridiculed in heaven, and what people respect down here is not necessarily respected up there. What we must believe is, that if a Tzaddik said something it is certainly significant.


Thus, I implore, start anew; take a Gemara Chulin and start Daf 64 – today’s Daf. Your entire life will transform, and likewise your wife will also be happy to see you learning.


Be well.

#108 - WHEN ONE STRUGGLES WITH PARNASSAH.
Parnassah

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ד' פרשת משפטים, כ"ד שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


I received your letter.


If you are having a very challenging time with Parnassah I have an עצה for you; cry out to Hashem that he have pity on you, and you will Iy”h witness miracles.


Maharosh would relate that in Yerushalayim there was a renown Maggid called R’ Bentzion Yadler Z”l, who would go round to Shuls and give Droshos; once a Yid came over to him and started weeping; “I have no money, my children are starving, they beg me for some bread and I have nothing to give them”. R’ Betzion told him: “What do you want from me? You have a wealthy Father; ask Him for help and that he already have pity on you,” the Yid looked at R’ Bentzion with confusion and asked “My father who lives in Tzfas? How can he help me? He is also extremely poor and can hardly sustain his family.” R’ Bentzion replied: “I don’t mean your Father in Tzfas, I’m referring to your Father in heaven, He can help you! Beg Him to have compassion on you.”


And to you I say the same: “You have a wealthy Father, beg Him to help you and have mercy on you”; Parnassah has nothing to do if one is smart, or talented; Parnassah only comes from Hashem.


If your wife wants to help you with Parnassah it’s not a problem; it’s true what you write that it is a husband’s responsibility, but that only means one shouldn’t force his wife to work; if she willingly offers to help out, you should be thankful to her.


May Hashem bless you with great abundance.

#107 - SIMCHA IS A SOLUTION TO EVERYTHING.

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ב' פרשת משפטים, כ"ב שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


I received your letter.


You brought me great joy by informing me that you finished Mishnayos for the fifth time; Chazal say (Sanhedrin 42.): "במי אתה מוצא מלחמתה של תורה", who has a clear understanding of the Torah? And they answer, "במי שיש בידו חבילת של משנה", by one who learns Mishnayos.


Regarding that you have pressure and doubts while engaging in התבודדות, you aren’t sure whether you are יוצא or not or if you spent enough time on it or not; Daven to Hashem to be happy, and thus your problems will resolve. Because when one is B’Simcha, all his worries and uncertainties melt away. Beg Hashem: “Hashem, help me be happy, and not confused by anything in the world. Give me clarity, and pure faith in you, and help me remember that you are always by my side. Remove the Yetzer Hora who constantly tries to confuse me without reprieve. He introduces doubts into everything I do; when I talk to you, he causes me to suffer with thoughts that I didn’t daven enough, or I should have focused on something else etc. etc. Hashem help me find happiness in everything I do.” Through Davening and beseeching Hashem every day, you will find your doubts disappear, and a way out of your problems.


May Hashem help you succeed in all your endeavors.

#106 - THROUGH TZNIUS ONE MERITS RIGHTEOUS CHILDREN.
Tznius

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ב' פרשת משפטים, כ"ב שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


I received your letter.


Regarding your question whether your wife should change her head covering to a Tichel; you write that at first she was very confident with the idea, but now she is hesitant because she is embarrassed of a neighbor, and you want advice how to proceed.


On one hand it is very admirable to wear a Tichel without a Sheitel, as we see from the story Chazal relate (Yuma 47.): “There was a woman called Kimches, and she had 7 sons, all of them were Kohanim Gedolim. The Chachomim once asked her: “How did you merit such greatness?” Her reply was: “I was always extremely careful that the walls of my home should never see even a strand of my hair.” What we learn from this is, when a woman behaves modestly, she will merit Nachas from her children. But you cannot force anything upon your wife, it must come with consideration and patience.


Thus, I beg you dear..., respect your wife and don’t impose anything upon her; thank Hashem that you have a refined and Ehrliche wife who wishes to please you. However, it is a challenge for her to face her family and neighbors, resulting in her feeling torn between your wishes and her doubts. If she agrees to change, then a Tichel is certainly more Tzniusdik. In this Zechus you will merit the Brocha from the holy Rebbe (Sefer Hamiddos, Ois Banim) "צניעות שבאשה מזכה לה לבנים הגונים"; A woman who conducts herself with Tznius merits righteous children.


However, your main focus should be to live in harmony; if you live together in peace, and respect her; if you constantly praise her and make her feel valuable; then you will be Zoche to Hashem’s presence in your home, and thereby merit happiness and blessing.

#105 - I ONLY WANT TO HELP YOU.

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום א' פרשת משפטים, כ"א שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear….


Thank you for your donation for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed in all your endeavors.


I hope you are not hurt that I spoke to you etc., I have no personal interests here, except to save you from humiliation.


I ask you again, I see you are upset at me, what can I do you shouldn’t feel that way?


How many hours did I spend with you to prepare you for your wedding; and then after your wedding? My only desire is to help you lead a happy life.


Dear…, I’m waiting to hear from you.


I’m here to help you achieve happiness.

#104 - DAVENING BRINGS A PERSON PARNASSAH.
Parnassah

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום א' פרשת משפטים, כ"א שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


I request from you to establish a daily Shiur in Gemara; even if you cannot comprehend what you are learning, say the words anyway.


Chazal state (Avos 6, 2): “Only one who learns Torah is considered a free person, and by learning Torah one merits to become wealthy.”


Daven Shachris every morning, and you will be Zoche to have Parnassah. The holy Kedushas Levi Zt”l once observed a Yid rushing out of Shul, and he stopped him and asked “Tell me, where are you running to?” the Yid answered “I’m rushing to my Parnassah”; the Kedushas Levi responded “Who says you are heading towards your Parnassah? You might actually be running away from it!” Meaning his Parnassah is possibly only in the merit that he spends time in Shul in Torah and Tefilla, and he shouldn’t seek to escape so quickly. Thus, the same I say to you: “Make sure to Daven Shachris every day and in this merit, you will have Parnassah.”


May Hashem help you succeed in all your endeavors.

#103 - APPRECIATION FOR ASSISTING WITH THE KOLLEL HICHEL HAKODESH.

בעזרת ה' יתברך- ערב שבת קודש פ' יתרו, י"ט שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear…. and your wife;


Thank you for your donation for the Yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success.


Thank you for hosting the first fundraiser for our Kollel ‘Hichel Hakodesh’.


During the event I was reminded of a story that occurred with the holy Satmar Rebbe Zt”l; It was during the Rebbe’s Friday night Tish, and there was an extremely large crowd pushing to hear the words of the Rebbe. The Rebbe then remarked “I hope that Motze Shabbos by the annual dinner there will also be throngs of people”, and he went on to say (Tana Debai Eliyahu Raba, 17) that "בשעה שאמרו ישראל נעשה ונשמע", the Yidden flocked from far and wide, but "מיד אמר הקדוש ברוך הוא ויקחו לי תרומה", when Hashem requested to bring money to build the Mishkan, there was suddenly room for everyone, because everyone quickly dispersed. So I thought to myself, that by the shiurim, we always have a big Oilam, everyone comes for התחזקות, but when it comes to asking for assistance for the Moised, suddenly people are scarce.


True there were only about 10 people in attendance, but it means a lot to me; to see these few Talmidim who will go out of their way to help me.


When you have the opportunity, go up to the Kollel, you will see the Yingeleit learning with an intensity that you don’t see elsewhere.

#102 - TEACHERS AND MELAMDIM MUST BE CAREFUL NOT TO REPEAT WHAT THEIR STUDENTS TELL THEM.
Chinuch

בעזרת ה' יתברך- ערב שבת קודש פ' יתרו, י"ט שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Mrs…


Thank you for your donation for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in everything you do.


You cannot imagine the significance of being a teacher, and imbuing in children Emunah, Tznius, and Middas Toivas. Fortunate for you on this world and the next.


Be careful not to reveal anything you hear in school; someone who teaches young children are privy to many secrets their students expose. Young children divulge everything; one discloses how their parents argue; another tells how they watch movies at home; one child shares how her mother grows her hair etc. etc. However, a teacher cannot repeat anything she hears, except to the principal. Or, send me a letter with the details, and we will know how to deal with it.


Regarding the story which occurred this week etc., I will speak to the parents, and make them aware to behave in a Tzniusdike fashion.


Once again, I thank you for everything you do for our children.

#101 - DON’T SQUANDER AWAY YOUR LIFE WITH PETTY ARGUMENTS AND FIGHTS.
Sholom Bayis

בעזרת ה' יתברך- ערב שבת קודש פ' יתרו, י"ט שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Mrs….


I sent a letter to your husband and implored he abandon all arguments etc.; thus, I want to request from you: help him create peace, because he desires to spend time with you. It’s just a struggle for him to put away his pride and be the one to start. You be wise and give him a smile and positivity, and everything will change. True, he should be the one reconciling, but now isn’t the time to weigh who is right or wrong. Your duty now is to be smart, swallow, and make sure your home doesn’t collapse. Give him a smile and you will see it will change his mood; in return he will start talking to you in a pleasant manner.


How long does one live, that its worthwhile to squander away precious time with petty arguments? Chazal relate (Chulin 59): There is a species of insect called "בקא", these flies could only survive for one day. Instead of enjoying their extremely brief lifespan with each other, they spend their time arguing and accusing each other. The female says to the male "חזיתיה לבר מחוזא דסחא במיא וסליק ואיכרך בסדינין, ואותיבת עליה ומצת מיניה ולא הודעת לי", I saw you bite a person who was swimming in the sea, and you didn’t invite me to join the feast; now I won’t talk to you for the next seven years! They barely live for one day, yet they fight for seven years…  Sadly, there are many people who behave in the same foolish manner. They think they are here forever, and don’t realize how short life actually is. You’ve spent enough years arguing, now start investing that energy in building your home; don’t seek to always be right, be the adult and the first to ask for forgiveness; start treating your husband nicely.


I beg you Mrs…; give your husband a smile, and speak to him pleasantly. Tell him “I love you so much,” you can be sure he will reciprocate with kind words. Life is like a mirror; when one smiles, the reflection flashes a smile back, but when one frowns, the reflection does the same. Be happy and a joyful atmosphere will permeate throughout your home; when the mother is happy everyone is happy. I know this is not an easy request, especially for a Yiddishe Mame who is preoccupied with so many different responsibilities, however, try with all the strength you possess, and beseech Hashem for his help; Say “Hashem help me be in a good mood, help me be happy and not depressed. I know everything is contingent in my behavior, and when I am miserable the whole house feels the effects. My husband and children suffer because of me; help me Hashem, I want to repent, I no longer want to be irritable and angry etc.”


While lighting the Shabbos candles, cover your eyes and beseech Hashem; pour your heart out to Him; every Tefilla you utter, whether for yourself, your husband or your children is very precious up in heaven.


I wish you a happy and pleasant Shabbos.

#100 - I’M WAITING TO TALK TO YOU.

בעזרת ה' יתברך- ערב שבת קודש פ' יתרו, י"ט שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear…..


Thank you for your donation for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in everything you do.


I was extremely pleased to see you attended the Yartzeit Seuda for Maharosh Zecher Tzaddik Livrocha.


I wanted to talk to you; why didn’t you come over to say hello? I miss you so much, finally I see you back in Yeshiva where you spent your childhood.


I hope you learn some Torah every day; a little Chumash and Mishnayos; by doing so you will merit success.

#99 - STOP WITH YOUR ARGUMENTS AND CONFLICTS; CREATE A PEACEFUL ATMOSPHERE AT HOME.
Sholom Bayis

בעזרת ה' יתברך- ערב שבת קודש פ' יתרו, י"ט שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


After talking and writing so often, I still cannot convince you that through arguing and always being right, you won’t achieve anything? Do you think it is a Mitzva to always have the last word? Do you suppose that by hurting your wife you will receive more Schar up in heaven? It’s enough already. Start living in harmony. To the holy Rebbe, Shalom Bayis was the most important factor. The Rebbe spoke about it very often, and he would constantly warn us to be careful not to argue with our wives, only value and cherish them. (Sichas Haran, Siman 264).


For everything you need turn to Hashem; heed the Rebbe’s words, and tell him everything you are going through. Talk to him in the language you are most comfortable with, and you will certainly see heavenly salvation.


Instead of arguing and bickering with your wife, daven to Hashem every day, and you will see Nissim. R’ Nosson Z”l once said: “If a person talks and Davens to Hashem for something, for Forty days, his Tefillos will certainly be answered.”


Be very careful not to lose your temper on Shabbos; the holy Zohar states (Tikunei Zohar, Tikun 48): on the Pasuk in Shemos (35, 3): "לא תבערו אש בכל משבתיכם ביום השבת", he adds one word "לא תבערו אש 'הכעס' ביום השבת"; the entire week one must be careful not to become angry, but on Shabbos one must use even more caution and ensure there is a happy atmosphere in his home; if you treat your wife in a pleasant manner you will see your entire home transform.


Remember, with kindness and patience you can achieve anything.


I’m sending you a letter for your wife, give it to her still before Shabbos because I want you to have a happy peaceful Shabbos.

#98 - THE POWER OF MISHNAYOS

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ה' פ' יתרו, י"ח שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…..


It makes me happy to hear you appreciate the daily letters of התחזקות.


If you are looking for a way to escape from your Aveiros start a daily Shiur in Mishnayos. Make it part of your routine; even though you don’t understand what you’re saying continue without comprehending, and you will eventually find a way to escape from your sins. The Rebbe states in Sichas Haran (Siman 19): “Even a person who has strayed far from the Kedushah, and  has already descended so low that he is lying in שאול תחתית, yet, if he takes upon himself to learn Mishnayos every day, he will manage to extricate himself from his sins, because the power of the Torah is infinite, and one cannot imagine the positive effect it has on a person.”


After the Rebbe said so, R’ Nosson asked the Rebbe: “Can Torah also save a person who has sunken in the Aveira of פגם הברית – הוצאת זרע לבטלה רחמנא לצלן?”, the Rebbe reprimanded him and said: “You cannot fathom the power of the holy Torah; even someone who is accustomed to sin in this terrible Aveira, of פגם הברית – הוצאת זרע לבטלה רחמנא לצלן, if he makes it part of his routine, and learns Torah every day, he will be Zoche to abandon all his wrongdoings, and merit to become an Ehrliche Yid.”


Good day.

#97 - HELP YOUR WIFE WITH THE PREPARATIONS FOR SHABBOS.
Sholom Bayis, Shabbos

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ה' פ' יתרו, י"ח שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


Why must you always be the one to show you are right? You are undoubtedly very wise and talented, but by constantly arguing with your wife, you don’t exactly demonstrate it. Stop with all the petty fights; through bickering one doesn’t achieve anything. See where you can truly be smart, and remain quiet; you don’t always need to have the last word. Find opportunities to help your wife.


Now before Shabbos, try with all the strength you possess to be מוותר so peace pervades throughout your home. The Yetzer Hora knows that Shabbos is a holy time, and a person can become closer to Hashem, therefore he causes Machlokes between a husband and wife so they enter Shabbos with contempt and hostility.


Instead of becoming annoyed why this or that isn’t done yet, or something isn’t ready for Shabbos, roll up your sleeves and lend a hand; the Gemara lists how the holy Tanaim would help out at home to prepare for the Shabbos (Shabbos 119.): R’ Safra would prepare the head of a Beheima in honor of the Shabbos; Rava salted the fish; Rav Huna prepared the candles; Rav Pupa prepared the wicks; Rav Chisda prepared the vegetables; Rav’e and Rav Yosef prepared the wood for the fire; R’ Zeira would stoke the fire with small pieces of wood; Rav Nachman Bar Yitzchok brought in the clothing and utensils as if he’s about to welcome an important guest. Learn from the holy Tanaim and Amaroim how they helped out in honor of the Shabbos with the utmost simcha and satisfaction; if all the Tzaddikim understood the significance of assisting Lekuvid Shabbos, you can certainly find ways to help your wife at home.


I beg you; as soon as you finish reading this letter, go home. Stop chasing after friends, they just distract you from your wife and children, and destroy your life. Instead, go home to your wife and children who are waiting for you. Help your wife prepare for Shabbos and you will merit to taste a Taam Gan Eden here on this world.


 Good night.

#96 - THOSE WHO STRENGTHEN OTHERS, ALSO NEED CHIZUK.
Hafutza

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ד' פ' יתרו, י"ז שבט, יומא דהילולא של מוהרא"ש זצוק"ל, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear….


Havreich….., wrote a letter to me, relating how much you enjoy the letters I send every day; it heartened me greatly.


People have this misconception that those who strengthen others, don’t need Chizuk in return; however, the truth is that it’s just the opposite. Chazal state (Sifrei Parshas Nosoi, Piske 1): "אין מחזיקים אלא המחוזקים"; Maharosh explains that those who encourage others need the most encouragement, as it says in Succah (52.); "כל הגדול מחברו – יצרו גדול הימנו"; the Yetzer Hora puts much more emphasis on individuals who engage in drawing Yidden closer to Hashem. Therefore, it brought me great pleasure to hear that you draw strength from the letters.


If only you could take the קונטרסים 'עצתו אמונה', and distribute them to others; you will have a share in bringing Yidden closer to Hashem.


Thank you for your donation to help the Yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you see success in all your endeavors.