בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ד' פ' יתרו, י"ז שבט, יומא דהילולא של מוהרא"ש זצוק"ל, שנת תשע"ט
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Take the עצה the Rebbe advised his Talmid R’ Shmuel Aizik Z”l; the Rebbe once remarked to him, (Chai Maharan 441) “Because of some bad blood is it worth losing this world and the next? Instead, cry out to Hashem.”
Everyone is born with bad Middos, and our Tafkid is to work on them, and through doing so become a better person. The reason a person thinks he is entitled to everything, and can do no wrong, is because he still retains the bad blood he was born with; he hasn’t made the effort to work on his Middos yet. The Rebbe gave us the עצה of התבודדות; one should empty his heart out to Hashem, and discuss exactly what is bothering him. How this bad Middah is hindering his life etc., and this is how he will eventually be able to conquer it. For ex. if one is an extremely irritable person, and every small thing causes him to explode in anger, once it passes, and he realizes how he just behaved, he should cry out to Hashem to help him overcome it.
Maharosh would relate; before the war there were Bochurim from Poland who were visiting Uman, and when the war erupted, they were stranded in Uman indefinitely. Being that they had nowhere to live, they made themselves comfortable in the Kloiz. This would annoy the Shamesh terribly, and he would constantly drive them out of the Shul in anger. People then heard the Shamesh crying at the Rebbe’s Tzion, full of remorse “Ribonoi Shel Oilam, what do I want from these poor Bochurim? Why do I constantly get so annoyed at them?” They thought the Shamesh had changed his ways, but this would only repeat itself again and again. He would rage at them, and then cry to Hashem full of regret. Maharosh would conclude: “This is a true Breslever Chassid; even when he loses himself repeatedly, he turns to Hashem, and each time begs ‘Hashem help me be able to control myself’”.
This is the way to tackle your negative character traits; cry out to Hashem. At first this is extremely difficult, no one finds it pleasant to confront his flaws; it is easier for him to stick to simple Tefillos than admit to his faults. But once one breaks through this barrier, and reveals to Hashem all his imperfections, his impure thoughts, and his bad Middos, he will slowly work to triumph over them. By finding a few minutes every day, and begging Hashem “Hashem, what will become of me? I have this terrible Midda, and therefore did so and so,” he will become a better person.
This is what the Rebbe meant when he told R’ Shmuel Aizik “Because of some bad blood is it worth losing this world and the next? Instead, cry out to Hashem.” Defeating one’s bad natures is a challenging battle, but surrendering to them means living a challenging life.