Letters from the Rosh Yeshiva Shlit"a

#114 - START WORKING ON THE CALENDAR FOR THE FOLLOWING YEAR.

 בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ה' פרשת משפטים, כ"ה שבט, שנת תשע"ט


 


To my dear…


Thank you for your contribution for the Yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in all your endeavors.


It brings me distress that this year’s calendar is full of mistakes; every morning when I refer to it to check for today’s Shiurim on Bavli, Yerushalmi, and Tosefta etc., it bothers me again that it’s full of errors.


Therefore, I request from you, start working on next year’s calendar; bring me a few samples, and I’ll give them to Talmidim to proofread, and hopefully this way there won’t be any inaccuracies.


Please don’t be insulted that I’m telling you this; it’s just a shame, since so many Talmidim rely on it for their daily Shiurim, according to the Seder Derech Halimud, as Maharosh established.

#113 - REMAIN STRONG WITH הפצה.
Hafutza

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ה' פרשת משפטים, כ"ה שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear….


Thank you for your contribution for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in all your endeavors.


Yesterday I tested your son’s class, I must inform you how well he performed, he repeats the Mishnas with energy and Geshmak – it’s a pleasure to hear.


May Hashem help him grow up to be Ehrlich, and may you merit Nachas from him, and from the rest of your children.


I ask you dear…., continue engaging in הפצה; there is a fire raging, and Yiddishe Kinder – boys, girls, and Bochurim are unfortunately being destroyed; only the Rebbe’s Seforim can save them from the flames of ניאוף, and ignite in them the Emunah to believe in Hashem.


Remain strong!

#112 - ONE WHO STRENGTHENS OTHERS ALSO NEEDS CHIZUK.

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ה' פרשת משפטים, כ"ה שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To Mrs….., Principal in Bais Faiga Breslev.


I hope you and the rest of the teaches were satisfied by yesterday’s shiur; it is very important to me to talk to the teachers weekly, and strengthen them in their holy work. Chazal state (Sifra Nosoi, Piske 1): "אין מחזקין אלא למחוזקין", those who encourage others, need the most encouragement in return. Thus, Melamdim and teachers require the most Chizuk.


I give a Shiur every morning after the Gemara Shiur to the Melamdim; it makes me happy that we organized a Shiur once a week for the teachers too. I recently heard that teachers all around the world listen to the Shiurim on ‘Kol Breslev’, and gain much Chizuk from them.


I greatly appreciate that you once again made a gathering for the married graduates of ‘Bais Faiga’, to strengthen them and teach them how to conduct themselves after marriage.


If possible, invite Mrs…. to join; she is like one of our students and can also benefit from the Shiurim.


Regards from your son …..; I tested his class today, he learns very well and everyone has Nachas from him.


Thank you for your donation for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in all your endeavors.

#111 - THANK YOU FOR ASSISTING OUR KOLLEL ‘HICHEL HAKODESH’.

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ה' פרשת משפטים, כ"ה שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear….


Thank you for your contribution for the Yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you have success in all your endeavors.


Thank you for helping the Kollel ‘Hichel Hakodesh’; I heard you invested great efforts that the fundraiser in Boro Park should be successful, it was a pleasure for me to attend.


I wasn’t initially planning to come, but after hearing how much strength you exerted for its success, I wanted to take a share in the Mitzva of supporting Torah.


If you have an opportunity, come up to the Kollel and see for yourself how well the Yingeleit learn; they start the day with the Daf Gemara, and continue all day with Halacha.


In this merit, may you have success in everything you do.


From your Rosh Yeshiva who constantly Davens for your success.

#110 - WHEN ONE SEEKS REFUGE IN THE HOLY TORAH HE IS PROTECTED FROM ALL HARM.
Limud HaTorah

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ד' פרשת משפטים, כ"ד שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


Even though I have written countless letters to you on the greatness of learning a Daf Gemara a day, I’m writing yet another letter to you because I hope you still do so.


Gemara is a safe haven where one can escape to while going through hardships; even though you are preoccupied with the hassle of daily life, you should be careful not to let the opportunity to learn the Daf slip by. The pages of Gemara are the sweetest place to seek refuge בעת צרה. As Chazal relate (Shemos Raba 27, 3): “There were hunters trying to capture a bird, so she escaped to the kings palace knowing that in such a place nobody will dare shoot at her”; likewise, when a person is going through difficulties the best place to go hide is by Hashem, there, no one can harm you.


Therefore, I beg you dear…, start a routine of learning a Daf Gemara a day; even if you don’t understand what you are learning say the words without comprehending. Don’t mock this concept, because it’s not a joke. This world is an illusion, what is ridiculed here is not necessarily ridiculed in heaven, and what people respect down here is not necessarily respected up there. What we must believe is, that if a Tzaddik said something it is certainly significant.


Thus, I implore, start anew; take a Gemara Chulin and start Daf 64 – today’s Daf. Your entire life will transform, and likewise your wife will also be happy to see you learning.


Be well.

#109 - IT’S TIME TO START LOOKING FOR A SHIDDUCH FOR YOUR DAUGHTER.
Shidduch

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ד' פרשת משפטים, כ"ד שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Mrs…..


 Your daughter came up to me today, and she cried that she yearns to get married already; thus, I ask you to start listening to suggestions and seeking an Ehrliche Shidduch for her.


Although we spoke already, and we determined to wait a while, I think she is ready to enter the next stage in life. She is mature and perceptive, and she wants to start her future.


Be strong, Hashem will not forsake you. Whatever you desire ask from him.


Thank you for your donation for the yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in all your endeavors.

#108 - WHEN ONE STRUGGLES WITH PARNASSAH.
Parnassah

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ד' פרשת משפטים, כ"ד שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


I received your letter.


If you are having a very challenging time with Parnassah I have an עצה for you; cry out to Hashem that he have pity on you, and you will Iy”h witness miracles.


Maharosh would relate that in Yerushalayim there was a renown Maggid called R’ Bentzion Yadler Z”l, who would go round to Shuls and give Droshos; once a Yid came over to him and started weeping; “I have no money, my children are starving, they beg me for some bread and I have nothing to give them”. R’ Betzion told him: “What do you want from me? You have a wealthy Father; ask Him for help and that he already have pity on you,” the Yid looked at R’ Bentzion with confusion and asked “My father who lives in Tzfas? How can he help me? He is also extremely poor and can hardly sustain his family.” R’ Bentzion replied: “I don’t mean your Father in Tzfas, I’m referring to your Father in heaven, He can help you! Beg Him to have compassion on you.”


And to you I say the same: “You have a wealthy Father, beg Him to help you and have mercy on you”; Parnassah has nothing to do if one is smart, or talented; Parnassah only comes from Hashem.


If your wife wants to help you with Parnassah it’s not a problem; it’s true what you write that it is a husband’s responsibility, but that only means one shouldn’t force his wife to work; if she willingly offers to help out, you should be thankful to her.


May Hashem bless you with great abundance.

#107 - THROUGH TZNIUS ONE MERITS RIGHTEOUS CHILDREN.
Tznius

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ב' פרשת משפטים, כ"ב שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


I received your letter.


Regarding your question whether your wife should change her head covering to a Tichel; you write that at first she was very confident with the idea, but now she is hesitant because she is embarrassed of a neighbor, and you want advice how to proceed.


On one hand it is very admirable to wear a Tichel without a Sheitel, as we see from the story Chazal relate (Yuma 47.): “There was a woman called Kimches, and she had 7 sons, all of them were Kohanim Gedolim. The Chachomim once asked her: “How did you merit such greatness?” Her reply was: “I was always extremely careful that the walls of my home should never see even a strand of my hair.” What we learn from this is, when a woman behaves modestly, she will merit Nachas from her children. But you cannot force anything upon your wife, it must come with consideration and patience.


Thus, I beg you dear..., respect your wife and don’t impose anything upon her; thank Hashem that you have a refined and Ehrliche wife who wishes to please you. However, it is a challenge for her to face her family and neighbors, resulting in her feeling torn between your wishes and her doubts. If she agrees to change, then a Tichel is certainly more Tzniusdik. In this Zechus you will merit the Brocha from the holy Rebbe (Sefer Hamiddos, Ois Banim) "צניעות שבאשה מזכה לה לבנים הגונים"; A woman who conducts herself with Tznius merits righteous children.


However, your main focus should be to live in harmony; if you live together in peace, and respect her; if you constantly praise her and make her feel valuable; then you will be Zoche to Hashem’s presence in your home, and thereby merit happiness and blessing.

#106 - SIMCHA IS A SOLUTION TO EVERYTHING.

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ב' פרשת משפטים, כ"ב שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


I received your letter.


You brought me great joy by informing me that you finished Mishnayos for the fifth time; Chazal say (Sanhedrin 42.): "במי אתה מוצא מלחמתה של תורה", who has a clear understanding of the Torah? And they answer, "במי שיש בידו חבילת של משנה", by one who learns Mishnayos.


Regarding that you have pressure and doubts while engaging in התבודדות, you aren’t sure whether you are יוצא or not or if you spent enough time on it or not; Daven to Hashem to be happy, and thus your problems will resolve. Because when one is B’Simcha, all his worries and uncertainties melt away. Beg Hashem: “Hashem, help me be happy, and not confused by anything in the world. Give me clarity, and pure faith in you, and help me remember that you are always by my side. Remove the Yetzer Hora who constantly tries to confuse me without reprieve. He introduces doubts into everything I do; when I talk to you, he causes me to suffer with thoughts that I didn’t daven enough, or I should have focused on something else etc. etc. Hashem help me find happiness in everything I do.” Through Davening and beseeching Hashem every day, you will find your doubts disappear, and a way out of your problems.


May Hashem help you succeed in all your endeavors.

#105 - DAVENING BRINGS A PERSON PARNASSAH.
Parnassah

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום א' פרשת משפטים, כ"א שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


I request from you to establish a daily Shiur in Gemara; even if you cannot comprehend what you are learning, say the words anyway.


Chazal state (Avos 6, 2): “Only one who learns Torah is considered a free person, and by learning Torah one merits to become wealthy.”


Daven Shachris every morning, and you will be Zoche to have Parnassah. The holy Kedushas Levi Zt”l once observed a Yid rushing out of Shul, and he stopped him and asked “Tell me, where are you running to?” the Yid answered “I’m rushing to my Parnassah”; the Kedushas Levi responded “Who says you are heading towards your Parnassah? You might actually be running away from it!” Meaning his Parnassah is possibly only in the merit that he spends time in Shul in Torah and Tefilla, and he shouldn’t seek to escape so quickly. Thus, the same I say to you: “Make sure to Daven Shachris every day and in this merit, you will have Parnassah.”


May Hashem help you succeed in all your endeavors.

#104 - I ONLY WANT TO HELP YOU.

בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום א' פרשת משפטים, כ"א שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear….


Thank you for your donation for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed in all your endeavors.


I hope you are not hurt that I spoke to you etc., I have no personal interests here, except to save you from humiliation.


I ask you again, I see you are upset at me, what can I do you shouldn’t feel that way?


How many hours did I spend with you to prepare you for your wedding; and then after your wedding? My only desire is to help you lead a happy life.


Dear…, I’m waiting to hear from you.


I’m here to help you achieve happiness.

#103 - I’M WAITING TO TALK TO YOU.

בעזרת ה' יתברך- ערב שבת קודש פ' יתרו, י"ט שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear…..


Thank you for your donation for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in everything you do.


I was extremely pleased to see you attended the Yartzeit Seuda for Maharosh Zecher Tzaddik Livrocha.


I wanted to talk to you; why didn’t you come over to say hello? I miss you so much, finally I see you back in Yeshiva where you spent your childhood.


I hope you learn some Torah every day; a little Chumash and Mishnayos; by doing so you will merit success.

#102 - STOP WITH YOUR ARGUMENTS AND CONFLICTS; CREATE A PEACEFUL ATMOSPHERE AT HOME.
Sholom Bayis

בעזרת ה' יתברך- ערב שבת קודש פ' יתרו, י"ט שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


After talking and writing so often, I still cannot convince you that through arguing and always being right, you won’t achieve anything? Do you think it is a Mitzva to always have the last word? Do you suppose that by hurting your wife you will receive more Schar up in heaven? It’s enough already. Start living in harmony. To the holy Rebbe, Shalom Bayis was the most important factor. The Rebbe spoke about it very often, and he would constantly warn us to be careful not to argue with our wives, only value and cherish them. (Sichas Haran, Siman 264).


For everything you need turn to Hashem; heed the Rebbe’s words, and tell him everything you are going through. Talk to him in the language you are most comfortable with, and you will certainly see heavenly salvation.


Instead of arguing and bickering with your wife, daven to Hashem every day, and you will see Nissim. R’ Nosson Z”l once said: “If a person talks and Davens to Hashem for something, for Forty days, his Tefillos will certainly be answered.”


Be very careful not to lose your temper on Shabbos; the holy Zohar states (Tikunei Zohar, Tikun 48): on the Pasuk in Shemos (35, 3): "לא תבערו אש בכל משבתיכם ביום השבת", he adds one word "לא תבערו אש 'הכעס' ביום השבת"; the entire week one must be careful not to become angry, but on Shabbos one must use even more caution and ensure there is a happy atmosphere in his home; if you treat your wife in a pleasant manner you will see your entire home transform.


Remember, with kindness and patience you can achieve anything.


I’m sending you a letter for your wife, give it to her still before Shabbos because I want you to have a happy peaceful Shabbos.

#101 - DON’T SQUANDER AWAY YOUR LIFE WITH PETTY ARGUMENTS AND FIGHTS.
Sholom Bayis

בעזרת ה' יתברך- ערב שבת קודש פ' יתרו, י"ט שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Mrs….


I sent a letter to your husband and implored he abandon all arguments etc.; thus, I want to request from you: help him create peace, because he desires to spend time with you. It’s just a struggle for him to put away his pride and be the one to start. You be wise and give him a smile and positivity, and everything will change. True, he should be the one reconciling, but now isn’t the time to weigh who is right or wrong. Your duty now is to be smart, swallow, and make sure your home doesn’t collapse. Give him a smile and you will see it will change his mood; in return he will start talking to you in a pleasant manner.


How long does one live, that its worthwhile to squander away precious time with petty arguments? Chazal relate (Chulin 59): There is a species of insect called "בקא", these flies could only survive for one day. Instead of enjoying their extremely brief lifespan with each other, they spend their time arguing and accusing each other. The female says to the male "חזיתיה לבר מחוזא דסחא במיא וסליק ואיכרך בסדינין, ואותיבת עליה ומצת מיניה ולא הודעת לי", I saw you bite a person who was swimming in the sea, and you didn’t invite me to join the feast; now I won’t talk to you for the next seven years! They barely live for one day, yet they fight for seven years…  Sadly, there are many people who behave in the same foolish manner. They think they are here forever, and don’t realize how short life actually is. You’ve spent enough years arguing, now start investing that energy in building your home; don’t seek to always be right, be the adult and the first to ask for forgiveness; start treating your husband nicely.


I beg you Mrs…; give your husband a smile, and speak to him pleasantly. Tell him “I love you so much,” you can be sure he will reciprocate with kind words. Life is like a mirror; when one smiles, the reflection flashes a smile back, but when one frowns, the reflection does the same. Be happy and a joyful atmosphere will permeate throughout your home; when the mother is happy everyone is happy. I know this is not an easy request, especially for a Yiddishe Mame who is preoccupied with so many different responsibilities, however, try with all the strength you possess, and beseech Hashem for his help; Say “Hashem help me be in a good mood, help me be happy and not depressed. I know everything is contingent in my behavior, and when I am miserable the whole house feels the effects. My husband and children suffer because of me; help me Hashem, I want to repent, I no longer want to be irritable and angry etc.”


While lighting the Shabbos candles, cover your eyes and beseech Hashem; pour your heart out to Him; every Tefilla you utter, whether for yourself, your husband or your children is very precious up in heaven.


I wish you a happy and pleasant Shabbos.

#100 - APPRECIATION FOR ASSISTING WITH THE KOLLEL HICHEL HAKODESH.

בעזרת ה' יתברך- ערב שבת קודש פ' יתרו, י"ט שבט, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear…. and your wife;


Thank you for your donation for the Yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success.


Thank you for hosting the first fundraiser for our Kollel ‘Hichel Hakodesh’.


During the event I was reminded of a story that occurred with the holy Satmar Rebbe Zt”l; It was during the Rebbe’s Friday night Tish, and there was an extremely large crowd pushing to hear the words of the Rebbe. The Rebbe then remarked “I hope that Motze Shabbos by the annual dinner there will also be throngs of people”, and he went on to say (Tana Debai Eliyahu Raba, 17) that "בשעה שאמרו ישראל נעשה ונשמע", the Yidden flocked from far and wide, but "מיד אמר הקדוש ברוך הוא ויקחו לי תרומה", when Hashem requested to bring money to build the Mishkan, there was suddenly room for everyone, because everyone quickly dispersed. So I thought to myself, that by the shiurim, we always have a big Oilam, everyone comes for התחזקות, but when it comes to asking for assistance for the Moised, suddenly people are scarce.


True there were only about 10 people in attendance, but it means a lot to me; to see these few Talmidim who will go out of their way to help me.


When you have the opportunity, go up to the Kollel, you will see the Yingeleit learning with an intensity that you don’t see elsewhere.

#99 - TEACHERS AND MELAMDIM MUST BE CAREFUL NOT TO REPEAT WHAT THEIR STUDENTS TELL THEM.
Chinuch

בעזרת ה' יתברך- ערב שבת קודש פ' יתרו, י"ט שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Mrs…


Thank you for your donation for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be blessed with success in everything you do.


You cannot imagine the significance of being a teacher, and imbuing in children Emunah, Tznius, and Middas Toivas. Fortunate for you on this world and the next.


Be careful not to reveal anything you hear in school; someone who teaches young children are privy to many secrets their students expose. Young children divulge everything; one discloses how their parents argue; another tells how they watch movies at home; one child shares how her mother grows her hair etc. etc. However, a teacher cannot repeat anything she hears, except to the principal. Or, send me a letter with the details, and we will know how to deal with it.


Regarding the story which occurred this week etc., I will speak to the parents, and make them aware to behave in a Tzniusdike fashion.


Once again, I thank you for everything you do for our children.

#98 - HELP YOUR WIFE WITH THE PREPARATIONS FOR SHABBOS.
Sholom Bayis, Shabbos

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ה' פ' יתרו, י"ח שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…


Why must you always be the one to show you are right? You are undoubtedly very wise and talented, but by constantly arguing with your wife, you don’t exactly demonstrate it. Stop with all the petty fights; through bickering one doesn’t achieve anything. See where you can truly be smart, and remain quiet; you don’t always need to have the last word. Find opportunities to help your wife.


Now before Shabbos, try with all the strength you possess to be מוותר so peace pervades throughout your home. The Yetzer Hora knows that Shabbos is a holy time, and a person can become closer to Hashem, therefore he causes Machlokes between a husband and wife so they enter Shabbos with contempt and hostility.


Instead of becoming annoyed why this or that isn’t done yet, or something isn’t ready for Shabbos, roll up your sleeves and lend a hand; the Gemara lists how the holy Tanaim would help out at home to prepare for the Shabbos (Shabbos 119.): R’ Safra would prepare the head of a Beheima in honor of the Shabbos; Rava salted the fish; Rav Huna prepared the candles; Rav Pupa prepared the wicks; Rav Chisda prepared the vegetables; Rav’e and Rav Yosef prepared the wood for the fire; R’ Zeira would stoke the fire with small pieces of wood; Rav Nachman Bar Yitzchok brought in the clothing and utensils as if he’s about to welcome an important guest. Learn from the holy Tanaim and Amaroim how they helped out in honor of the Shabbos with the utmost simcha and satisfaction; if all the Tzaddikim understood the significance of assisting Lekuvid Shabbos, you can certainly find ways to help your wife at home.


I beg you; as soon as you finish reading this letter, go home. Stop chasing after friends, they just distract you from your wife and children, and destroy your life. Instead, go home to your wife and children who are waiting for you. Help your wife prepare for Shabbos and you will merit to taste a Taam Gan Eden here on this world.


 Good night.

#97 - THE POWER OF MISHNAYOS

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ה' פ' יתרו, י"ח שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Dear…..


It makes me happy to hear you appreciate the daily letters of התחזקות.


If you are looking for a way to escape from your Aveiros start a daily Shiur in Mishnayos. Make it part of your routine; even though you don’t understand what you’re saying continue without comprehending, and you will eventually find a way to escape from your sins. The Rebbe states in Sichas Haran (Siman 19): “Even a person who has strayed far from the Kedushah, and  has already descended so low that he is lying in שאול תחתית, yet, if he takes upon himself to learn Mishnayos every day, he will manage to extricate himself from his sins, because the power of the Torah is infinite, and one cannot imagine the positive effect it has on a person.”


After the Rebbe said so, R’ Nosson asked the Rebbe: “Can Torah also save a person who has sunken in the Aveira of פגם הברית – הוצאת זרע לבטלה רחמנא לצלן?”, the Rebbe reprimanded him and said: “You cannot fathom the power of the holy Torah; even someone who is accustomed to sin in this terrible Aveira, of פגם הברית – הוצאת זרע לבטלה רחמנא לצלן, if he makes it part of his routine, and learns Torah every day, he will be Zoche to abandon all his wrongdoings, and merit to become an Ehrliche Yid.”


Good day.

#96 - THOSE WHO STRENGTHEN OTHERS, ALSO NEED CHIZUK.
Hafutza

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ד' פ' יתרו, י"ז שבט, יומא דהילולא של מוהרא"ש זצוק"ל, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear….


Havreich….., wrote a letter to me, relating how much you enjoy the letters I send every day; it heartened me greatly.


People have this misconception that those who strengthen others, don’t need Chizuk in return; however, the truth is that it’s just the opposite. Chazal state (Sifrei Parshas Nosoi, Piske 1): "אין מחזיקים אלא המחוזקים"; Maharosh explains that those who encourage others need the most encouragement, as it says in Succah (52.); "כל הגדול מחברו – יצרו גדול הימנו"; the Yetzer Hora puts much more emphasis on individuals who engage in drawing Yidden closer to Hashem. Therefore, it brought me great pleasure to hear that you draw strength from the letters.


If only you could take the קונטרסים 'עצתו אמונה', and distribute them to others; you will have a share in bringing Yidden closer to Hashem.


Thank you for your donation to help the Yeshiva; in the merit of Tzedakah may you see success in all your endeavors.

#95 - HOW DOES ONE WORK ON THEIR BAD MIDDOS?
Good Middos

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ד' פ' יתרו, י"ז שבט, יומא דהילולא של מוהרא"ש זצוק"ל, שנת תשע"ט


Mrs….


I received your letter.


Take the עצה the Rebbe advised his Talmid R’ Shmuel Aizik Z”l; the Rebbe once remarked to him, (Chai Maharan 441) “Because of some bad blood is it worth losing this world and the next? Instead, cry out to Hashem.”


Everyone is born with bad Middos, and our Tafkid is to work on them, and through doing so become a better person. The reason a person thinks he is entitled to everything, and can do no wrong, is because he still retains the bad blood he was born with; he hasn’t made the effort to work on his Middos yet. The Rebbe gave us the עצה of התבודדות; one should empty his heart out to Hashem, and discuss exactly what is bothering him. How this bad Middah is hindering his life etc., and this is how he will eventually be able to conquer it. For ex. if one is an extremely irritable person, and every small thing causes him to explode in anger, once it passes, and he realizes how he just behaved, he should cry out to Hashem to help him overcome it.


Maharosh would relate; before the war there were Bochurim from Poland who were visiting Uman, and when the war erupted, they were stranded in Uman indefinitely. Being that they had nowhere to live, they made themselves comfortable in the Kloiz. This would annoy the Shamesh terribly, and he would constantly drive them out of the Shul in anger. People then heard the Shamesh crying at the Rebbe’s Tzion, full of remorse “Ribonoi Shel Oilam, what do I want from these poor Bochurim? Why do I constantly get so annoyed at them?” They thought the Shamesh had changed his ways, but this would only repeat itself again and again. He would rage at them, and then cry to Hashem full of regret. Maharosh would conclude: “This is a true Breslever Chassid; even when he loses himself repeatedly, he turns to Hashem, and each time begs ‘Hashem help me be able to control myself’”.


This is the way to tackle your negative character traits; cry out to Hashem. At first this is extremely difficult, no one finds it pleasant to confront his flaws; it is easier for him to stick to simple Tefillos than admit to his faults. But once one breaks through this barrier, and reveals to Hashem all his imperfections, his impure thoughts, and his bad Middos, he will slowly work to triumph over them. By finding a few minutes every day, and begging Hashem “Hashem, what will become of me? I have this terrible Midda, and therefore did so and so,” he will become a better person.


This is what the Rebbe meant when he told R’ Shmuel Aizik “Because of some bad blood is it worth losing this world and the next? Instead, cry out to Hashem.” Defeating one’s bad natures is a challenging battle, but surrendering to them means living a challenging life.


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#94 - EVERYTHING IS MIN HASHOMAYIM.
Shidduch

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ד' פ' יתרו, י"ז שבט, יומא דהילולא של מוהרא"ש זצוק"ל, שנת תשע"ט


Mrs….


Thank you for helping the Yeshiva with your donation for the rent. In the merit of tzedakah may you succeed in everything you do.


I know you are feeling guilty over the fact that Habachur …… Kallah broke off the Shidduch; everyone feels his pain, though it must bother you more since you played the role of Shadchan; therefore, I beg you, don’t take it to heart, the entire incident is Min Hashomayim.


I want to strengthen you to continue your attempts to suggest Shidduchim; especially for ……, he is a wonderful boy, and almost like a child to me. Likewise, the girl is also a good girl, and why this had to happen is beyond our control or understanding. The only explanation can be, that Hashem wanted this to occur.


People will certainly now gossip and speak Lashon Hora; concoct reasons, and manufacture stories why this happened, but take no notice. Continue with your virtuous deeds, that is what Hashem wants from you now.


I request once again: don’t feel guilty. You are not at fault, the Bachur isn’t at fault, and lastly the girl isn’t at fault. This was a decree from heaven, and we must accept it with love and continue our efforts to carry through with more Shidduchim.


Thank you for accepting my words of Chizuk.

#93 - IT’S TIME TO START NOTICING THE WONDERS HASHEM GRANTS YOU.

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ד' פ' יתרו, י"ז שבט, יומא דהילולא של מוהרא"ש זצוק"ל, שנת תשע"ט


Dear….


Cease complaining; start thanking Hashem for the many blessings he grants you.


Look around, and notice how lucky you are; there are so many tragedies that unfortunately occur daily, just by listening to the news one can see how fragile life truly is, no one knows what will become of him the next moment.


Yesterday there was a tragedy in the news, a Bachur was on the way to Yeshiva with his bike when a car knocked him down, and he was Niftar, השם ישמרנו. You certainly heard the terrible accident that happened to our Chaver Habachur…..; he went on a trip to Europe to Daven for Yeshuous, and the car he was in flipped, and he still is unfortunately in a very difficult condition. May Hashem have mercy on him, and the rest of Klal Yisroel, and grant everyone a Refuah Shleima.


One cannot know what the next second brings; a person foolishly goes around with complaints and grievances against Hashem; while he really has so many benefits and blessings. It says in Tehillim (136,4): "לעשה נפלאות גדלות לבדו", and Chazal explain (Niddah 31.): "לעולם אפילו בעל הנס אינו מכיר בניסו", Hashem grants a person miracles, yet he doesn’t take the time to grasp or appreciate how lucky he is.


Instead of crying and complaining start thanking Hashem. Say aloud “Riboinoi Shel Oilam, I am full of gratitude for the many blessings you grant me,” then list in full detail all your miracles. Even if you have issues which are bothering you, Daven for them later; start your Tefilla with thanks and praise to Hashem; start looking at life with a positive mindset.


Avoid arguing with people, especially with your wife. Through bickering one doesn’t achieve anything. Instead, be מוותר for your wife; what is it she wants already? To create a peaceful and happy home together. Remember what I always implore ‘your value isn’t diminished when you sacrifice for another, and you don’t become stronger when you have the last word.’


Good night.

#92 - ONE MUST BELONG TO AN EHRLICHE חבורה.

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ד' פ' יתרו, י"ז שבט, יומא דהילולא של מוהרא"ש זצוק"ל, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear….


Thank you for helping the Yeshiva with your contribution for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you be successful in all your endeavors.


So much time has elapsed since I last saw you; I was very pleased to notice you last week Thursday at the Shiur; halfway through I spotted you, and it made me very happy. I wanted to talk to you after the Shiur, but I had to leave already.


I wanted to emphasize the importance of belonging to a חבורה of Ehrliche Yidden; it doesn’t necessarily have to be ‘Hichel Hakodesh’, but one must have a place to where he belongs, and draws Chizuk.


It hurts me that Talmidim sever their connection to the yeshiva after their Chasunah; it’s understandable that they become preoccupied with the hassle of Parnassah, but it is even more important, to retain a connection with an Ehrliche חבורה. Drifting alone isn’t beneficial to a person. Therefore, when I saw you at the Leil Shishi Shiur it gladdened me that you still feel a connection to the holy Rebbe.


I want to talk to you.

#91 - BY GIVING TZEDAKAH ONE IS ZOCHE TO MIRACLES.
Tzedukeh

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ד' פ' יתרו, י"ז שבט, יומא דהילולא של מוהרא"ש זצוק"ל, שנת תשע"ט


Mrs….


Although I have written to you on many occasions, I want to reiterate how happy it makes me to see your husband in Yeshiva learning and Davening; whenever he has a spare moment during the day, he comes over for some Chizuk.


I constantly Daven for you and your husband, Hashem should bless you with success in everything you do.


Whenever something disturbs you, or you lack something etc.; take a couple of coins and drop them into the Pushka with both hands; ask Hashem for whatever you need, and you will be Zoche to miracles. As the Rebbe says in Sefer Hamiddos (Ois Tefilla & Ois Tzedakah)  "על ידי צדקה בשתי ידים תפלתו נשמעת", when one gives Tzedakah with both hands his Tefillos are accepted in heaven.


Thank you for your donation for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may you succeed in all your endeavors.

#90 - DON’T DESPAIR, AND YOU WILL MERIT TO FIND YOUR SHIDDUCH SOON.
Bochur

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ד' פ' יתרו, י"ז שבט, יומא דהילולא של מוהרא"ש זצוק"ל, שנת תשע"ט


To my dear…..


Thank you for your donation for the rent; in the merit of Tzedakah may Hashem bless you with success.


When you would be aware how happy I am every time you come to Yeshiva, and learn some Torah, you would certainly come over more often.


Believe me, your pain weighs heavily on my heart; I know how hard it is for you that you haven’t found your Basherte yet. I Daven to Hashem every day that you should find your Shidduch soon, and that you should remain steadfast, until that moment occurs.


I understand you don’t feel comfortable sitting in Yeshiva with boys a few years younger than you; especially since most Bochurim your age have gotten married already, but it means a lot to me every time you come up to hear some Chizuk.


I beg you…, don’t despair; you will soon merit to find your Shidduch.