בעזרת ה' יתברך – יום ד' פרשת משפטים, כ"ד שבט, שנת תשע"ט
I received your letter.
If you are having a very challenging time with Parnassah I have an עצה for you; cry out to Hashem that he have pity on you, and you will Iy”h witness miracles.
Maharosh would relate that in Yerushalayim there was a renown Maggid called R’ Bentzion Yadler Z”l, who would go round to Shuls and give Droshos; once a Yid came over to him and started weeping; “I have no money, my children are starving, they beg me for some bread and I have nothing to give them”. R’ Betzion told him: “What do you want from me? You have a wealthy Father; ask Him for help and that he already have pity on you,” the Yid looked at R’ Bentzion with confusion and asked “My father who lives in Tzfas? How can he help me? He is also extremely poor and can hardly sustain his family.” R’ Bentzion replied: “I don’t mean your Father in Tzfas, I’m referring to your Father in heaven, He can help you! Beg Him to have compassion on you.”
And to you I say the same: “You have a wealthy Father, beg Him to help you and have mercy on you”; Parnassah has nothing to do if one is smart, or talented; Parnassah only comes from Hashem.
If your wife wants to help you with Parnassah it’s not a problem; it’s true what you write that it is a husband’s responsibility, but that only means one shouldn’t force his wife to work; if she willingly offers to help out, you should be thankful to her.
May Hashem bless you with great abundance.