Letters from the Rosh Yeshiva Shlit"a

Sholom Bayis


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ג' פ' בא, ב' שבט, שנת תשע"ט


I received your letter.

Forgive me for not replying immediately; I was distracted with other responsibilities.

I sent your wife a letter yesterday afternoon; I then received another letter from her asking why I didn’t reply to you yet; she is right, I should have replied a while ago.

I beg you; stay strong dear……, and strengthen your wife. When a woman goes through hardships and suffering, her husband is her sounding board for her pain, and broken heart. Thus, a husband must be careful to keep his composure, and not display despair, even if he also believes there is nothing to do to help the situation. He must continue encouraging her with all his strength, even if it seems she doesn’t accept it, and his words are in vain.

Therefore, I beg you dear……; when your wife cries to you; listen and comfort her. Explain in the simplest terms that Hashem is here, with you in your pain, and everything that happens has an exact accounting for.

It is useless to torment oneself, with thoughts of death. When the minute one must return his soul to Hashem arrives, there is nothing one can do to change it. It is futile to agonize with such worries and fears; instead turn on lively music, this will chase away senseless phobias. The Rebbe states (Sefer Hamiddos, אות פחד) "מי שיש לו פחדים, יזמר זמר של שמחה", one who is frightened, should sing songs of simcha, and thereby dispel all his fears.

It would be advisable for you to print a chelek of Asher Banachal; you could give the money to the messenger who delivers this letter. Maharosh would request five hundred dollars for the zchus of printing Asher Banachal.

I’m davening for you and your wife; I’m eagerly awaiting to hear that your situation has improved.