Letters from the Rosh Yeshiva Shlit"a


בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ב' פ' יתרו, חמשה עשר בשבט, שנת תשע"ט

To my dear…….

Even though I sent you a letter yesterday, I feel I must write to you again, to strengthen you while going through such an ordeal; that your Kallah broke off the Shidduch.

I beg you dear…, remain strong with all the strength you possess; don’t lose faith in Hashem, believe that everything Hashem does is for the person’s benefit. Review in your mind ‘everything Hashem does is certainly לטובה, even though it now seems like a calamity, I believe Hashem has his reasons.’ Chazal state (Berachos 60:): “A person should accustom himself to say: ‘everything Hashem does is לטובה’”. Not always do we see or realize how a certain hardship could benefit us, or why Hashem tests us with a particular Nisayon, but we must believe that Hashem is compassionate, and does only Chesed.

Accept this like a valuable gift; say to Hashem: “Hashem, I thank you for breaking off my Shidduch, I believe that this is certainly good for me. Hashem, give me strength to continue with my life, until my true Shidduch arrives. Hashem, it is so hard for me to be alone, I was about to get married and become a complete person, and now the Kallah decided not to continue. Help me Hashem find my true Zivug.” Pour your heart out to Hashem, and in this merit, you will find your Shidduch soon.