Letters from the Rosh Yeshiva Shlit"a

Hisbodedus, don’t give up!, Kibud Av V'eim

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ב' פרשת שמות,ט"ז טבת, שנת תשע"ט


   אשרינו מה טוב חלקינו "אשר בנחל" שם גורלנו! How different would our life be without the advice and lessons of the holy Rebbe, never to give up, no matter how dire your situation may seem.

Once you have tried everything in your power already to improve your situation, it’s about time you try the eitzah of the holy rebbe – התבודדות. Find yourself a quiet place with no one to bother you, and unburden yourself to Hashem in your own words, as if you’re talking to a trusted friend. After discussing your hardships with Hashem, you will feel unshackled, as if you were just set free from your personal captivity. Once a person becomes accustomed to talking to Hashem, he no longer needs anything or anybody else.

If you see days and weeks go by and you are still at square one – don’t give up! Even if you feel things are getting worse, and you’re sinking deeper and deeper, still, don’t despair. Continue going to shul every day, and laying teffilin. Continue learning mishnayos and gemara, and connect yourself to the Torah. Remember what the holy Rebbe would say (Likutei Maharan, chelek 1, siman 189) “The yetzer hora isn’t interested in a person’s sins, what his goal is, the depression and misery, which results from the aveira”.

Call your parents every day; there is no greater mitzva then the mitzva of ‘kibud av veim’. Chazal say (Tana D’bei Eliyahu Raba, parsha 26) “Hashem says ‘the entire world is mine – I created it, and what I request from you is to respect your parents’”; don’t say “they are old” or “they are not my style” etc., just give it some time and your children will grow up, and could possibly treat you the same way - chas vesholom.

May Hashem grant you success in all your endeavors