Letters from the Rosh Yeshiva Shlit"a

Sholom Bayis, Shabbos

בעזרת ה' יתברך- יום ה' פ' יתרו, י"ח שבט, שנת תשע"ט


Why must you always be the one to show you are right? You are undoubtedly very wise and talented, but by constantly arguing with your wife, you don’t exactly demonstrate it. Stop with all the petty fights; through bickering one doesn’t achieve anything. See where you can truly be smart, and remain quiet; you don’t always need to have the last word. Find opportunities to help your wife.

Now before Shabbos, try with all the strength you possess to be מוותר so peace pervades throughout your home. The Yetzer Hora knows that Shabbos is a holy time, and a person can become closer to Hashem, therefore he causes Machlokes between a husband and wife so they enter Shabbos with contempt and hostility.

Instead of becoming annoyed why this or that isn’t done yet, or something isn’t ready for Shabbos, roll up your sleeves and lend a hand; the Gemara lists how the holy Tanaim would help out at home to prepare for the Shabbos (Shabbos 119.): R’ Safra would prepare the head of a Beheima in honor of the Shabbos; Rava salted the fish; Rav Huna prepared the candles; Rav Pupa prepared the wicks; Rav Chisda prepared the vegetables; Rav’e and Rav Yosef prepared the wood for the fire; R’ Zeira would stoke the fire with small pieces of wood; Rav Nachman Bar Yitzchok brought in the clothing and utensils as if he’s about to welcome an important guest. Learn from the holy Tanaim and Amaroim how they helped out in honor of the Shabbos with the utmost simcha and satisfaction; if all the Tzaddikim understood the significance of assisting Lekuvid Shabbos, you can certainly find ways to help your wife at home.

I beg you; as soon as you finish reading this letter, go home. Stop chasing after friends, they just distract you from your wife and children, and destroy your life. Instead, go home to your wife and children who are waiting for you. Help your wife prepare for Shabbos and you will merit to taste a Taam Gan Eden here on this world.

 Good night.



בעזרת ה' יתברך-ערב שבת קודש פ' בא, ה' שבט, שנת תשע"ט


As Shabbos approaches let your mind unwind and remember the reason for your existence. On Shabbos there is no bank, no money, no stress; it is the time to nourish your Neshumah. The holy Zohar refers to Shabbos as (Parshas Vayakahal 205) "האי יומא, יומא דנשמתין הוא ולא יומא דגופא", Shabbos is a day of rest for the נשמה, and not for the גוף.

Thus, on Shabbos Daven with Minyan; rejoice with beautiful Seudas, and remember to remain upbeat the entire Shabbos. Through doing so you will merit abundance, as Chazal state (Bereishis Raba 11, 1) in reference to the Pasuk in Mishlei (10, 22) “If one honors and keeps the holy Shabbos, and rejoices throughout Shabbos, then he will merit great wealth.

Begin learning the Daf Gemara today; your life will be transformed; you will start sensing an inner happiness and peace; something you have never felt before. Every time one merits to learn Torah, his self-esteem grows; Aveiros cause a person to feel worthless, they cause one to start having foolish thoughts, Rachmana Litzlon; but when one delves into the Torah, he feels an inner gratification and contentment.

Shabbos is the time when one can relieve some of the stress he has to deal with all week; Chazal say (Tana Dabai Eliyahu, Perek 1): “A person should wake up Shabbos morning, and go to Shul to learn and Daven; only then should he go home and eat the Seuda;” in order to bring pleasure to Hashem, one must learn Torah. On Shabbos when you don’t have to worry about your business and bills; seize the opportunity to learn some Torah.

Have a good Shabbos.

Sholom Bayis, Shabbos, שובבי"ם, Uman, Kedusha

בעזרת ה' יתברך-ערב שבת קודש פ' שמות, כ' טבת, שנת תשעט


This week is the first Shabbos of שובבים; we must be extremely excited with the opportunity to observe this Shabbos properly.

Maharosh would constantly review the following Medrash (תנחומא בראשית, ג) “If one rejoices with the holy Shabbos, and sweetens it in whichever way possible, it is equivalent to as if he would have fasted a thousand times.” Therefore, the yetzer hora is terrified that one will rectify everything, just through keeping Shabbos in the right manner; so, he makes it his business to distract a person with whatever he can. Already from Friday morning one should daven to Hashem that he should merit to be happy throughout Shabbos; that he shouldn’t lose his temper on Shabbos; and that he should rejoice with the holy Shabbos.

Baruch Hashem, we are moving forward with the building in Uman, the exterior is almost complete; Hashem should help us finish it already, it should be “והראנו בבנינו, ושמחנו בתקונו.” This building will be a beacon of light to the entire world, as we see already; the teachings of the holy Rebbe are gradually being absorbed in all different communities and kehillas.

I personally thank everyone for helping me; but really you are helping yourself. Why is it I need this building? Is it my desire to incur debt? The only reason for doing this is, because I want to protect your children.

Yesterday I sent a bochur out of yeshiva; another bochur came to tell me that not everything is in order with him; when I asked him to elaborate, he explained that a few years ago whilst being in Uman for Rosh Hashanah, this particular bochur was staying in the same hotel as him, and throughout yom tov, he was chasing after the small children in a suspicious and inappropriate manner. This brings out how essential it is to have a safe place where to stay in Uman, and I want to provide accommodations where we can protect our kids.

Last week Friday night, I had an interesting incident. I usually don’t leave the Beis Hamedresh during davening, but a random thought entered my mind ‘let me go outside and check what is going on’. I stepped out for a moment, and just at that time a yingerman on the way into the Beis Hamedresh approaches me. I immediately stopped his entry, and told him to leave at once. When he asked why, I told him “I have heard you are a pedophile rachmana litzlon.” He turned around and fled as fast as he could. It was divine providence that I met him outside, and was able to chase him away in time.

People ask me, what is the importance of repeatedly talking about protecting oneself, and one’s children, from מניוולים? And I think to myself ‘will I ever be able to stress enough on it?’ When people would be aware of what is going on nowadays; how boys and girls are being victimized by sick people rachmana litzlon, they would beg me “please talk more, we want to have the peace of mind, knowing our children are safe.”

I’m sending you some pictures of the construction in Uman, so you can see with your own eyes how your money is being used. I don’t want a repeat of the problems we had last year; the roof wasn’t sealed properly and every time it rained, the whole building was submerged in water. I want to finish it as soon as possible.

Don’t view this as unnecessary, because traveling to Uman is our first priority. The holy Rebbe proclaimed (Chai Maharan, 405) “The entire world depends on my Rosh Hashanah”; we all go to Uman every year; and we bring along our children once they turn 7, we must have a place where to be together.

Thanks to Hashem I have obtained tickets for the coming Rosh Hashanahהבא עלינו לטובה  שנת תש"פ; I should merit yet another opportunity to visit the holy Rebbe, together with my children.

We cannot take aggravation, money, or anything else into account; we travel to holy Rebbe with mesirus nefesh. Therefore, we took the plunge and started such a project, to erect a building, in order to have a safe locale. Give it a few years and this building will be small already, every year there is a fresh class of five and six year old’s, who also want to merit the guarantee from the holy Rebbe (Chai Maharan, 517) “I promise every child, which comes to me before he turns 7 years of age, he will merit to be wed, holy and pure.” What more do parents want then ehrliche doros? What better guarantee does one have, that their children reach marriageable age, righteous and pure from aveiros, without being נכשל in פגם הברית?

Yingeleit ask me, is it so crucial to take their children every year repeatedly, why won’t it suffice just once? I think to myself ‘true, it’s a lot of money, but what is the value you put on ehrliche doros??’ It costs me an awful lot of money; I’m traveling with five children this year, kein ayin hora. Make a calculation, one ticket costs a thousand dollars, so in total I’m paying six thousand dollars. It costs money; but we will do everything in the world to ensure our children stay holy and pure.

Gladden your wife; the holy Arizal says (שער הפסוקים פ' כי תשא, סימן לא, ועיין ברא"ש קמא 7, 19) the acronym for 'ושמרו בני ישראל את השבת' is 'ביאה'. This illustrates, that on Shabbos one must be together with his wife. This is the only reason the yetzer hora puts so much focus to cause arguments and strife between a husband and his wife; they end up sulking at each other, and as a result, their Shabbos is destroyed. Therefore, try with all your strength to stay happy, and relaxed throughout Shabbos.

Good Shabbos.

Sholom Bayis, Shabbos

בעזרת השם יתברך ליל שישי פ' ויחי, אור לי"ג טבת, שנת תשע"ט


Leil shishi (thursday night) is the not the time to hang out with friends, go home, and help your wife prepare for shabbos.

Imagine you would have guest coming, you would certainly clean and prepare your house with an excitement and simcha, likewise, one should prepare מכל טוב וטוב, all kinds of delicacies in honor of the holy shabbos. Especially now, during the short winter Fridays be a חכם עיניו בראשו, and start preparing on Thursday in order for you to have an easier erev shabbos.

While hustling for shabbos sing to yourself "lekuvid shabbos!" and " shabbos is coming!", it states in mishna berurah that while buying for shabbos one should say 'lekuvid shabbos'; the more one expresses his excitement and anticipation for the shabbos, the more kedushah descends to the world.

Remember what the holy R' Nosson would say "I'd rather always be from the נרדפים-the mistreated"; be careful never to hurt another Jew, and definitely not your own wife.

I'll have to elaborate more on this tomorrow, now I have to run to my talmidim which are waiting for some chizuk. Bochurim have nothing and nobody in the world, therefore I need to show them that they are not alone, they have Hashem.

Good night.