Letters from the Rosh Yeshiva Shlit"a

Hischazkus, Yiras Shomayim, Shidduch, Nachas, Bochur


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ה' פ' שמות, י"ט טבת, שנת תשעט


The chasunah which took place in yeshiva this week brings me great pleasure.

When we opened our cheder in Williamsburg for the first time; Maharosh z”l regaled that years ago, the person which headed the Breslev shul in Williamsburg was lamenting how hard his job was, and that there are times when he barely  has minyan. While standing on the street in conversation, a school bus passed by, and Maharosh turned to him and said, “give it some time, and buses with ‘Talmud Torah Breslev’ emblazoned on their side will encircle Williamsburg.” The latter replied “you‘re most certainly dreaming; there will never be such a thing”. Maharosh then smiled and said “Baruch Hashem that my dream has become a reality.” Maharosh then requested that we drive past his house, so he can show his rebbetzin the beautiful Mosdos we founded, which follows the teachings of the holy Rebbe.

During the chasunah I thought to myself: ‘one can truly see how Maharoshs vision became a reality;’ Maharosh wrote an endless number of letters on this subject, (see קונטרס לב אבות על בנים; ארך אפים אות ד', ועוד) that one should not waste time and money on expensive simchas, only to celebrate them simply.

On many occasions, Maharosh would ask the bochurim in Yeshiva: “what does a bachur really need? Only one thing, to find their shidduch.” Maharosh would say, all that is necessary is a minyan, and a tallis for the chuppah, and that is it! A bachur’s wish is to be able to quote the בת קיסר who said to the בן מלך after years of yearning for her shidduch (סוף סיפורי מעשיות מעשה ב', ממלך וקיסר) “and now בן מלך we have each other, it is time to go home.” Thanks to Hashem the unimaginable is now coming to fruition.

Someone came over to me during the chasunah and remarked “there is nothing lacking from this simcha, it is so beautiful, but one thing is missing; Maharosh should be sitting here with his famous smile, and be witness, that his hard work was not for naught.” I replied “Maharosh is here! where else would he be?” there, where one learns and reviews the lessons of a tzaddik, and conducts themselves according to his teachings, that is where the tzaddiks neshoma is. The holy Zohar brings (parshas acherei, daf 71:): “A tzaddiks presence is stronger once he has left the world, even more then when he was still alive”.

Tonight, there will iyh be a shiur; don’t make excuses why not to come, even though you think it’s the same old stuff as every week. When the yetzer hora tries too dissuade you with the argument “what is the point? You hear the same דיבורים week after week,” answer him: “and what is your chiddush? The same aveiros again and again……”

True, we will review the same thing as every week; I daven to Hashem that he should help me find a way into everyone’s hearts, and I should repeat only what Maharosh taught us all these years. First and foremost, Emunah; the seder derech halimud – the Rebbes directive of learning and התחדשות, starting anew. The importance of sholom bayis; the chinuch of our sons and daughters; and how careful one must be with his behavior at home, because despite their young age, children absorb and understand everything that occurs.

Use extra caution with your conduct at home, if one wishes to merit nachas, he must behave himself with yiras shomayim. A child which sees that his father is a sample of yiras shomayim, he prepares negel vasser before bedtime; he recites krias shema; he doesn’t raise his voice, or use coarse language, then he too will be ehrlich. The child will then imitate his parents, and also read krias shema and prepare negel vasser; and use only refined speech.

Daven to Hashem, that you should merit to always stay young and energized, despite your age.

Have a good day.

Nachas, Chasuna


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פ' שמות, י"ח טבת שנת תשעט

Thank you for helping me establish the opportunity, for members of our kehillah, to marry off their children, without having to go into debt. Thanks to Hashem, this week we celebrated the fourth chasunah in yeshiva, free of charge.

It is self-understood that I would never have been able to accomplish this alone, only through the efforts of the kehillah and my devoted talmidim, were we able to make this a reality.

Therefore, a heartfelt thank you for sacrificing your precious time; I know the afternoon is a demanding time for a mother of small children, yet, you put it all aside to be present, and take pictures of the kallah and her family. May Hashem repay you with nachas from your children; and may Hashem help you find a good shidduch for your daughter ….., and merit to marry her off here in yeshiva, also at no cost.

Regards from your sons ……. and …….; they daven and learn well, but most importantly they behave themselves with respect.

Chazal cite (Shabbos 10:) הנותן מתנה לחבירו צריך להודיעו"”, when someone gifts someone with something, they should make sure the latter knows about it. Rashi explains “שמתוך כך יהא אוהבו,” through this one will generate love and goodwill. Chazal elaborate: that when one feeds another’s child, they should leave the child’s face dirty from the food they gave him, that when the child’s mother asks “why is your face unclean?” the child will explain that so and so fed him, and this will bring about appreciation and gratitude. Therefore, it is my duty to inform you how devoted I am to your …..; I treat him with love and patience, and I truly care for him. He will grow to be an ehrliche yid, and find a good shidduch iy"h.

Thank you.