Letters from the Rosh Yeshiva Shlit"a

Chizuk For Girls

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פ' בשלח, י' שבט, שנת תשע"ט

….. Student of Bais Faiga Breslev

I received your letter.

I am very pleased to hear you only befriend girls who use refined speech, and when you hear another girl use ניבול פה, or someone texts you with foul language, you sever your contact with her, or reply you want to end the relationship. I reread your letter a few times, it makes me very proud that in ‘Bais Faiga‘ we only have students, who aspire to be holy.

It is a great pity on girls who watch movies behind their parent’s backs; they think they are fooling only their parents, but at the end of the day, they will suffer the consequences their entire life. When one watches inappropriate movies Rachmana Litzlon, they are harmed for life; this propels them to bad decisions which are dangerous for them ברוחניות ובגשמיות.

I suggest you show this letter to the girl who told you that she has a laptop, and watches movies all night; she should realize that she is only hurting herself by watching movies secretly; she thinks this will bring her joy, but it is just the opposite, she will only become more depressed.

In conclusion: you remain strong, and only befriend Ehrliche girls; Baruch Hashem, all your classmates are Ehrlich, socialize with them.

May Hashem help you succeed in all your endeavors.

Appreciation, Chizuk For Girls


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פ' בא, ג' שבט, שנת תשע"ט

…. student of Bais Faiga Breslev

I don’t really comprehend the reason for your tears; why should you cry when Hashem bestows you with so many blessings every day? One could think you are undergoing extreme hardships; Baruch Hashem, you are healthy, you come from a wonderful home, you have dear parents, and you are beloved between your classmates at school; aren’t those good reasons to jump for joy, and stop your unnecessary tears?

You must stop crying and complaining, and start thanking Hashem for the many miracles he does with you. The holy Rebbe says (Likutei Maharan chelek 1, siman 2): “Tefilla is comparable to a sword, and this is a Yid’s weaponry. Whoever merits this weapon, must know how to maximize it’s potential; one must hold it securely in the center, not allow it to bend left or right.” Maharosh explains: just as one is on the battlefield; he must know the correct use of his weapon; likewise, with tefilla, one must know how to Daven to Hashem. Initially one should thank and praise Hashem, and through doing so, the person will then enter a mindset of appreciation and gratitude. One must remember that there are people not as privileged as he, and if those people find reasons to be happy, he certainly could too. By following this path, of first praising and only then Davening for his personal needs, he will be utilizing his weapon to its utmost. One shouldn’t say though “it is none of my concerns that another is less fortunate than me; how can I apply that as a benefit?” By realizing that others are not as blessed as him; he will be more thankful to Hashem for the miracles he does receive.

Therefore, cease crying and look at the wonders you do have; you aren’t lacking in any aspects; except the realization: ‘Hashem controls every small detail that occurs to everyone.’ Open your eyes to your wealth; Maharosh quotes from the Sefer Medrash Shmuel that ע'ש'י'ר' is an acronym for: "ע'ינים, ש'נים, י'דים, ר'גלים"; when one has his eyesight, the ability to eat, hands and feet, then he is the richest man on the planet. Think of the many Yidden who don’t have the capacities you do; they are Rachmana Litzlon blind, deaf, lame, and paralyzed. 

Start your morning by thanking Hashem; express your gratitude for your eyesight; hearing; sense of smell; and ability to talk. Thank Hashem aloud for your arms and legs, and your ability to move with ease. Once you recognize the miracles Hashem granted you; not only will you find happiness, you will also lighten up your surroundings, and bring joy to your parents and friends.

I hope you will absorb my words; they will benefit you on this world and the next.

Reread this letter every day.

Chizuk For Girls, Jealousy


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ב' פ' בא, ראש חודש שבט, שנת תשע"ט

…… student of Bais Faiga Breslev

I received your letter.

Cease envying your friends and neighbors; stop looking at other people; it is a senseless act. Everyone has their own unique hardships they are going through, and there is no person in the world that has only blessings. Therefore, it is foolish to be jealous of another. The only person one should envy is, a righteous Jew who despite going through tribulations and hardships, persists and continues with his avodas Hashem.

It would be worthwhile for you to review the story of the Chochom and the Tam (Sippurei Maasos, story 9) which demonstrates how the Tam merited a blessed life.

The Tam was a poor shoemaker, who worked long hours to earn a living. The shoes he would create were misshapen and bizarre, but he would pride himself with them, proclaiming “how beautiful and magnificent these shoes are! How sweet and blessed my shoes are!” His wife who wasn’t at all impressed with his work, couldn’t understand, and would question him; “if the shoes you make are truly so wonderful, why do all the other shoemakers charge three times the price than you do?” the Tam would reply “that is no concern of mine; others should do their thing; and I will continue to do mine. What they do is their decision, and what I do is my decision. What is the point in discussing others?” He would then make a calculation of his income and expenses; and calculate a profit. This was enough for him, and he was happy.

Therefore, when envious thoughts creep into your mind; you feel your siblings receive more than you do etc. replay the words of the Tam in your mind. ‘This is not my concern! What happens to others has no connection to me.’ By keeping this in mind, you too will merit the blessings the Tam ultimately merited.

I would not advise you to buy a cellphone. You have time for that after you get married; instead of texting with friends use your time to daven to Hashem, and say Tehillim.

May Hashem help you succeed in everything you do.