Letters from the Rosh Yeshiva Shlit"a

#4 - CEASE CRYING, AND REALIZE HOW BLESSED YOU ARE.
Appreciation, Chizuk For Girls

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פ' בא, ג' שבט, שנת תשע"ט


…. student of Bais Faiga Breslev


I don’t really comprehend the reason for your tears; why should you cry when Hashem bestows you with so many blessings every day? One could think you are undergoing extreme hardships; Baruch Hashem, you are healthy, you come from a wonderful home, you have dear parents, and you are beloved between your classmates at school; aren’t those good reasons to jump for joy, and stop your unnecessary tears?


You must stop crying and complaining, and start thanking Hashem for the many miracles he does with you. The holy Rebbe says (Likutei Maharan chelek 1, siman 2): “Tefilla is comparable to a sword, and this is a Yid’s weaponry. Whoever merits this weapon, must know how to maximize it’s potential; one must hold it securely in the center, not allow it to bend left or right.” Maharosh explains: just as one is on the battlefield; he must know the correct use of his weapon; likewise, with tefilla, one must know how to Daven to Hashem. Initially one should thank and praise Hashem, and through doing so, the person will then enter a mindset of appreciation and gratitude. One must remember that there are people not as privileged as he, and if those people find reasons to be happy, he certainly could too. By following this path, of first praising and only then Davening for his personal needs, he will be utilizing his weapon to its utmost. One shouldn’t say though “it is none of my concerns that another is less fortunate than me; how can I apply that as a benefit?” By realizing that others are not as blessed as him; he will be more thankful to Hashem for the miracles he does receive.


Therefore, cease crying and look at the wonders you do have; you aren’t lacking in any aspects; except the realization: ‘Hashem controls every small detail that occurs to everyone.’ Open your eyes to your wealth; Maharosh quotes from the Sefer Medrash Shmuel that ע'ש'י'ר' is an acronym for: "ע'ינים, ש'נים, י'דים, ר'גלים"; when one has his eyesight, the ability to eat, hands and feet, then he is the richest man on the planet. Think of the many Yidden who don’t have the capacities you do; they are Rachmana Litzlon blind, deaf, lame, and paralyzed. 


Start your morning by thanking Hashem; express your gratitude for your eyesight; hearing; sense of smell; and ability to talk. Thank Hashem aloud for your arms and legs, and your ability to move with ease. Once you recognize the miracles Hashem granted you; not only will you find happiness, you will also lighten up your surroundings, and bring joy to your parents and friends.


I hope you will absorb my words; they will benefit you on this world and the next.


Reread this letter every day.

#3 - COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS, AND THANK HASHEM.
Tehillim, Kibud Av V'eim, Appreciation

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פרשת שמות, י"ח טבת, שנת תשעט


Mrs……..


I received your letter.


The yetzer hora is so shrewd, he finds numerous ways to poison a person’s thoughts with negativity, to take the persons mind away from what is truly important – daven and thank Hashem.


Now that you are expecting a simcha, instead of thanking Hashem for the miracle, that you have children, and you’ll iyh merit more, you are miserable that you will miss out on your brother’s wedding.


When you have to forfeit a simcha because one of your own, that’s not a tragedy; instead focus and daven, that your own children should be ehrlich, that you should be zoche at the right time, and if the right time coincides with your brothers chasunah, thank and praise Hashem that the only reason you are missing out is, because of your own good fortune.


Understand your parents, why they didn’t consider this so important when deciding on a date for the chasunah, it is at all not easy to determine such a date; there are so many sides they have to accommodate, so instead of feeling miserable, thank Hashem that there are simchas in your family. Stop crying and complaining that they didn’t think of your feelings etc. Look at all the blessings Hashem gave you; you have a devoted husband, he brings parnassah, he helps you at home, he learns he davens – what more does one need? All that is missing is a little bit of happiness.


Unfortunately, I get to hear the terrible suffering some people go through, their entire life rachmana litzlon, therefore, it’s hard for me to understand why this should be a reason to cry.


If your parents don’t want you to produce a cd etc. drop the entire project and invest your talents into your home and family; with every small deed you are building your family’s future.


Regarding that you can’t find time to daven and say tehillim; that’s normal for busy mothers with small children. Instead, find a minute here and there, while folding laundry, while cooking and baking; talk to Hashem, sing songs of praise to him, even in yiddish, just how the Rebbe wanted us to.


 


I hope you will accept my words of chizuk, and start noticing the miracles Hashem does with you.


 


 


 

#2 - REGARDING ENGLISH IN SCHOOL.
Appreciation, School, English Studies

בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ד' פ' שמות, י"ח טבת, שנת תשעט


Mrs……


I received your letter.


I’m very pleased to hear that you are satisfied with our school; we have outstanding and talented teachers, which go to great lengths that the girls should grow up to be ehrlich, and continue building Klal Yisroel.


Regarding your daughters English, she cannot speak fluently yet etc.; this isn’t a result of our school, this is just the way it works with any child. While they are still young, they speak in their mother tongue, and gradually throughout their school years, they learn another language. We have students from both Williamsburg and Boro Park; true, the children from Boro Park have a fluent English, but when it comes to Yiddish it’s difficult for them. They end up translating every word before expressing themselves, and even then, their Yiddish sounds awkward. Vice versa, the students which come from Williamsburg, and their first language is Yiddish, have a hard time expressing themselves in English, but throughout the years they perfect it.


Thank Hashem for the wonders and miracles he did with you; you have a dear husband and beautiful children kein aiyin hora. You must thank and praise him for the past, and continue davening for the future; that your children grow up to be ehrlich and pure. Especially nowadays, the yetzer hora’s only goal is to entrap yiddishe neshomus; boys and girls from the most wonderful homes are being led astray. One must daven and say tehillim, and not spare any tears, in order to merit righteous children.

#1 - DON’T WALLOW IN SELF-PITY.
R' Nosson, Limud HaTorah, Appreciation

 


בעזרת ה' יתברך-ג' פרשת שמות, י"ז טבת, שנת תשעט


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 Forgive me for not having time this morning to send you a letter; I’m very busy now with multiple things. Yesterday night there was a chasunah here in yeshiva, the chosson is a Talmud from our yeshiva ‘Tiferes Hatorah’ and the kallah is a student from our school ‘Bais Faiga’. In the morning I had a bris in Boro Park for h’avriechs ………. twins. Now that I have a few minutes, I will write a few lines.


A yid once came to R’ Nosson z”l regarding another yid, part of אנשי שלומינו who was extremely poor. He remarked “what a רחמנות - a pity on him, he is destitute without a penny to his name”. R’ Nosson answered (in a tone of surprise) “he is a רחמנות?”, “Moshe Chinke is a רחמנות!” (Moshe Chinke was one of the Rebbes talmidim, who later became one of R’ Nossons biggest opponents.) He continued “true this specific person has no money and therefore seems like an object of pity, and Moshe Chinke is wealthy and powerful, but in reality he is the real רחמנות, because who knows what will await him after 120 when he will be held accountable for his deeds…..”


To you dear brother I say the same, you look at yourself and think ‘what a pity on me, I have nothing…’ you envy so and so who on the outside looks like they are leading a fine life. Thus, I want to ask you (in a tone of surprise) “you consider yourself a רחמנות? You are not a רחמנות, you live with Emunah! You believe in Hashem! Even when you fall down, it hurts, and presses on your conscience, so why wallow in self-pity? Stop envying another, and instead thank Hashem for all the blessings in your life!


I still have a lot more to write on this topic, but since my time is very limited, I’ll end here. What gives me the strength to continue, is to hear that you are connected to the Torah, and you learn some mishnayos and gemara every day; זה חלקי מכל עמלי.


Good night.