בעזרת ה' יתברך-יום ה' פ' בא, ד' שבט, שנת תשע"ט
To my dear……
A Yid once came to the holy Tzemach Tzedek of Lubavitch, and lamented on the fact that his wife treats him in a patronizing manner; she degrades and shames him. The holy Tzaddik replied: “It states in the holy Torah (Bereishis 3, 17) "ואל אישך תשוקתך, והוא ימשל בך", Hashem told Chavah; you will have a strong desire for your husband, but he will preside over you. The Tzemach Tzedek explained “this goes hand by hand; if you exchange the two, and the husband desires the wife, then the wife becomes the superior, and the husband the inferior.”
If you will chase after your wife etc. then she will rule over you; but if you will immerse yourself in Torah, Tefilla, and especially הפצה then she will respect you.
I hope you understand what I am insinuating; if you conduct yourself righteously then you will merit a blessed life.
I will continue this conversation in person.